#reflection?

[kalgalen]

I just keep gettin disappointed when i read m/e fic tagged with "canon asexual character" cuz like

nice of ya to acknowledge it but.....don't....just gloss over it then

[lilthussy]

I've been playing lots of remnant 2 recently. And it's real interesting playing a video game that seems to have flaws. Cus I view certain aspects that way. Like they'll put a you in a cramped hallway with a bad guy whose attacks reach wall to wall. Like you didn't even give this fella room to exist, and sure as hell didn't give me room to evade them.

And then I'm like God how could you possibly play this multiplayer? There's barely enough room for me and an enemy to share a room

And the only way forward is to dodge all the attacks. And then the enemy does a seven hit combo when I only can do like four dodges in a row max. And every enemy is twice as fast as me.

I find ways to circumvent the limits of the situation. It's really cool! Or perhaps it's luck.

Some of the map design seems rather odd too. There will be a splitting path that merges together again like half a hallway later. And there's not much down either path.

I suspect some of these critiques are explained by the semi random generation of each world. Parts must be able to interchange.

[sirensandstories]

As someone who has been in relationships that weren't overtly affectionate, I have some thoughts about Bucktommy.

For starters, affection does not immediately equal love. To equate love to physical affection is doing a huge disservice to all the many ways there are to show you love and care about your significant other (or anyone really, romantic or not).

What you perceive as a lack of affection doesn't minimize their validity as a couple. The couples that actively show affection on the show are all the spouses. Because there's no development (in terms of establishing their relationship) to them, as in they're already established as a couple so they give us affection to remind us that they're still a unit.

But in the instance of Bucktommy, they're still developing them as a couple. So there are other ways to show them to us as a couple. For example in 8×5, all the instances of Tommy taking care of Buck and all of his humoring about the curse. Because yes that is realistic for a relationship. Like Oliver said, who in their right mind would just be like "oh yes of course baby the curse! We must fight it!"

I wasn't the biggest fan of how some of the lines were delivered from Tommy, in regards to the "screen time" and "you already had five minutes", but like I've seen many people say, this is part of what being a partner to someone means. You know them well enough to be able to identify their unhealthy traits/habits, and you do everything you can to keep them from participating in those harmful habits.

In this instance, for Buck, it's staying up in a research bender and not getting the rest he needs. (As someone is recently went through an injury, I can attest to how important sleep is to healing). Or the hospital scene where Tommy told Buck to stop picking. Sometimes that's what you did as Buck in that situation. Again, I've seen a lot of people talking about personal experience about their skin picking habits and how their partners often will have to break them out of that cycle. And it's for their own good.

Clearly we see/know that Buck tends to have a bit of an obsessive personality, he doesn't let things go until he's ready to do so, until he feels it's reached a natural conclusion that is satisfying to him. And he will ignore his own well being in search of that conclusion. So it really is a show of love from Tommy that he's coaxing Buck away from those, potentially super, harmful habits.

It's very realistic to me the way they're showing Bucktommy. And I think a lot of people look at them with fandom googles where everything is your OTP and your dream ship that they don't really understand that real relationships don't always look like they do in terms of fandom ships. They're not perfect all the time, they're not always super affectionate. It doesn't always have to be a 'i will fight for you to the death', there is still beauty in something as simple as 'i will continually show up for you'. It doesn't have to always be grand, all or nothing. There are multitudes. Again, it does a huge disservice to imply that there's only one way to be a couple.

It's only an issue if it upsets one or both parties. And then if that's the case, there needs to be open communication to work through those issues and ensure that they are both on the same page.

And yes, for a long time, we've seen Buck equate physical intimacy to love. Like in season 1 with his self proclamation that he's a sex addict. He doesn't understand then, that it's not the sex he's addicted to, it's the false emotional intimacy it provides. That's what he's truly searching for.

So it feels really harmful to his character for people to invalidate their status as a couple because they're not super affectionate. Buck doesn't need physical intimacy, he needs the emotional intimacy which they started to explore in this most recent episode.

And this is completely ignoring the fact that they have to think about so many other factors when they're planning these characters interactions. Like how the general audience will perceive them, in terms of shooting logistics (this pertaining to the whole couch debacle. Like I've thought a lot about how the scene would've shot upstairs, and would it have been possible, sure. But it shoots so much easier and more aesthetically pleasing downstairs. Plus it's safer in terms of less chance of Buck reinjuring himself trying to navigate stairs. Again I say this as someone who had a recent injury, who has to use stairs and be so painfully cautious about it. If I could stay downstairs the whole time I totally would've!)

Let's not forget Lou specifically requesting their first kiss be just that, a kiss vs an entire make out sesh. They've been showing us since Tommy's introduction as Buck's love interest, that they're soft and that Tommy expresses his love and affection by showing up.

Obviously, everyone is allowed their own opinions and can feel however they want to about this ship (provided they do so in a respectful manner because straight up, one group of shippers on either side, is ruining it for everyone and making everyone else look bad). I'm saying all this as someone who primarily ships Buddie, they are my fav, they are what got me into the 911 fandom. But tbh, I really fell in love with Bucktommy from this episode. And all this is obviously just my opinion that I wanted to share and if it resonates with you, that's wonderful! If it doesn't, that's okay too!

Bucktommy has done a lot in terms of making people feel seen through their representation. And this was kind of unexpected for me, to feel so seen by how they represented the Bucktommy relationship in 8×5.

Making this post and sharing all these thoughts is also not something I expected. If you'd told me yesterday I'd be posting this many thoughts on Bucktommy, I don't know if I would've believed you. But that really is just how pivotal of an episode it was for me, in terms of showcasing their relationship.

If you've read this far, you're instantly my favorite. And if you take away anything from this long ass rambling post, it's that physical affection/intimacy does not automatically equal love. And that the beautiful thing about love is that no two love stories are exactly the same.

[kal-elois]

This clip screams Peter/Nebula to me

Just some inspiration for all of you writers out there

[boy-with-the-rabbit-heart]

?ot ton desimorp eh retfa em tegrof eh did

.....

If this what I think it's about, I didn't forget. I could never do that.

[unusualbill]

I'm getting existential

[just-another-winchester]

So, I wake up and listen to the update about the Florida school shooting. I feel completely hopeless, I can’t believe it as I recognize that its likely some of the parents dont even realize that their children aren’t coming home, didn’t see the sunlight of February 15th of 2018. I feel literally sick to my stomach at this horrible event that seems to keep repeating itself... Then this comes on my radio as I turn on the car.

Yes, this hugely sucks, but I have to remember that God is taking care of us. I just pray those kids and teachers and the families of those who lost are being well taken care of. I pray for them, for the families. And I pray that this will never happen again.