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[ptseti]

[leading-lady-blog1]

Change Starts in Your Thoughts

Make sure your thoughts are set above. Start thinking you can and you will.

[adulttalk]

my bf got rly distant and cold recently. we've had issues before when I got distant bc i wasn't sure if I wanted a relationship, and he seemed really hurt but we got thru it. we haven't seen each other in a month and we barely text, jus like when I was being distant before. could he be trying to get back at me somehow? or is it nothing and there's just nothing to say?

Hi love. This really doesn’t look good either way you look at it.

First, if he is getting back at you—if that’s the root of his behavior—then that really isn’t someone you would want to be in a relationship with. If you guys worked through this issue the first time around and now he’s doing it just to get back at you, then there really was no resolution from the first time.

Second, if he really is just being distant, it still doesn’t look good. I would talk to him. Ask him if he needs space, for how long, are you breaking up and then coming back to relationship, or just taking a break? There needs to be at least a little bit of communication in the situation.

Third, if he isn’t being distant or claims nothing is wrong but you guys aren’t communicating or hanging out together very often, it doesn’t seem like a relationship. He isn’t making an effort to be with you or even just to take a little bit of time out of his day to text you. That’s a red flag. The relationship may be coming to an end.

To make a long story short, talk to him to see what’s up and go from there.

All the love xx

[iwatcheditbegin]

Men are trash. As soon as I try an talk about things I’m struggling with he’s like “ yeah okay you’re not interested in a relationship with me , and I don’t want to be your therapist” an actual text I just got. Y’all in a relationship you talk about things. You listen to the other person. But apparently not wanting to go across town to hookup during a lockdown means I’m “not interested “

[burned-to-a-crispy]

Today at my therapy session

I was talking to my therapist about my new relationship, and the connections I am making with my new meta, and the community my partner is introducing me too, and how welcome and accepted I feel with his friends.

She was so happy for me, and she mentioned that as a straight woman who is monogamously married who was raised traditionally, she struggles sometimes to connect to her clients who are lgbt and polyamorous, though of course she still tries her hardest. However, every once in a while she encounters clients who are so happy and have such a firm grasp on who they are, that talking with them about their lgbt or poly life just seems natural, and that she understands the community a bit more when talking to them. When she explained this to me she told me that I have become one of those people.

It was honestly the best compliment that she could ever give me.

Although I feel a lot more secure in my newest relationship, I've struggled with jealousy and insecurity non stop with my other partner, and I hate how it feels. I was seriously starting to feel like a failure. I still need to work on those issues, but maybe I'm not a lost cause after all

[wizdomly]

6 keys to a relationship: friendship, freedom, honesty, trust, understanding and communication.

via @wizdomly

[bryantmcgill]

Do you sometimes feel like being honest has held you back? Of course, no one wants to believe this, but in a seemingly dog-eat-dog world any of us can become disillusioned. It can seem that the honest people go nowhere, while undeserving snakes have slithered ahead. As much as this may seem true, it is only part of the story and in many ways it is an illusion. It is a common false impression because as you are moving-up, you sometimes, depending on where you started, pass through a strata of people who have not made it, many of them, because of integrity problems. So it seems like there is no integrity anywhere, and an honest person is doomed. There are also people at that level who are inexperienced with success and don't know how to actualize their visions; they are effectively dysfunctional. And then, there are people who are flat-out desperate. Some of these people have made less than noble decisions in lean times because they were operating from fear and a place of lack. I call it the three D's: desperation, dysfunction, and dishonesty. But if you keep steady and true to your principled journey, over time you can rise up through the fog of desperation. Real and deep success is a journey of total integrity. Like a plane breaching over the dark thunder-clouds with a blast of sunlight, eventually you break through to a new level, where it is the exact opposite and where nearly every successful person you meet, refreshingly, has a high standard of conduct; never perfect of course, but good. This is when you have found your tribe; those in your likeness. It takes patience, longsuffering, and a strong will to do good, but through it all, if you prove time and time again that you have integrity, you will eventually meet the success you always knew was meant for you. Stay true to your ideals and give them the gift of your wholehearted energy and effort. — Bryant McGill

[hippiegg-blog]

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