renegotiating boundaries
B & I finally asked M & K for their thoughts on moving the boundaries so that we can feel more polyamorous, rather than monogamous until sex starts. We’ll hear from them tonight.
Renegotiating boundaries can be scary because there’s always a chance everything could just end, right then and there (most extreme scenario; I’m tempted to say worst-case scenario, but I recently heard that regardless, it is always a good thing ~ if your needs aren’t being met, then it might be time to re-evaluate whether or not to continue the relationship, as hard as that might be).
On the flip side, I have to be vulnerable and put Bridges and my needs out there, and give our partners the opportunity to comfort us // quell our fears // renegotiate // lay their needs on the line // come to agreements with all taken into consideration // etc. They won’t know unless we tell them; we won’t know unless they tell us. Nothing deepens intimacy like shared vulnerability.
Here’s to being vulnerable🥂
