Hello, I wanted to ask you how to determine if one person is a sx-blind or a so-blind. There are some descriptions on the Internet, but they are very unclear. I hope that you could answer me.
Hey, great question! There’s some good information out there on instinctual variants, but it can be hard to find, and this seems to be a pretty common area of confusion. I’ll do my best to try to share my two cents.
I find sx-blinds to be sort of the salt of the earth types. Sx brings with it a degree of intensity and need for highs and intense stimulation, which often results in a sort of emotionalism or more volatile personality. So sx-blinds are often a bit more chill, less inclined towards intense emotionalism, and overall more stable, with a general focus on their well-being and community or social network. They tend to enjoy the companionship of other people, without a whole lot of expectations or pressure on others to be sufficiently entertaining or put on a performance for them. They may know a large number of people and keep up with them, but degree of closeness varies widely. May have multiple or overlapping social circles which they feel are important to maintain. May readily participate in group activities to maintain their status quo as part of the group or to further their self-preservation related interests, and are more naturally inclined toward networking. When unhealthy/over-focusing on sx, they can become stalker-like due to lack of experience in intimate relationships and misunderstanding of proper boundaries now that they actually want to get very close to someone.
So-blinds tend to be pretty oblivious towards the community, may be more isolated with only a handful of close intimates (and are content with this) unless an intimate drags them into a social circle, tend to view themselves as outsiders even if participating in a social circle if they aren’t close to a sufficient number of people within it, and tend to just hunker down and focus on themselves, their hobbies, and a few close loved ones. They tend to be neglectful in cultivating a wide social circle or making acquaintances, may forget to avail themselves of community resources, may not bother with or see the point in networking even if it would be beneficial, and may have difficulty caring about the impression they give off to the wider world or local community. More likely to wind up socially isolated and immersed in the things that are important to them, without feeling a sense of loss or loneliness, or become a hermit. May be adverse to pointless or casual socializing, and only interested in being social if they see potential to develop a sufficient degree of closeness. When unhealthy/over-focusing on so, they can become antagonistic or hostile about society at large and how it needs to be reformed, since they are annoyed by society’s expectations.