A Reminder For RPers
Since this update has many people upset and stressed out, and I have started to see some unpleasant things happening because of it, I wanted to post a reminder to not use it as an excuse to be a toxic person. A great many of us, especially in the roleplay community are upset and dislike this new update, and we didn’t want it either. But being upset is not an excuse to take your frustrations out on your friends, or RP partners.
Please remember that many of us suffer from issues like depression and anxiety, not to mention all the stressful events happening in RL, and while this completely awful update may tempt some people to lash out, please keep in mind that you are not the only person who is stressed and upset. I have already seen posts saying that the xKit team is working on making tumblr usable for us by updating and fixing their extensions and giving us new ones, so hopefully we will have things back to functioning how we like them soon.
In the mean time, please don’t bully or guilt trip your friends or RP partners, and still be mindful of others. Your feelings are valid, and it is alright to be upset about it, or about other things, but in such a stressful time, with everything going on in RL please please please do not make your friends feel like shit. Roleplay is something many of use to help combat our depression, and anxiety, and some of us have health issues that make things difficult for us. We need to be able to relax and RP as we want to, and with who we see fit. No one has the right to tell anyone who they can and cannot RP with, or guilt others for not doing enough.
If you want to RP with someone more, ask them. Start things. Send them memes or tag them in starters. But do not. DO NOT guilt people or bully them, or try to make them feel bad for not doing enough for you. Do not lash out at others because you are stressed. Some days, people just don’t have the energy or the mental or emotional capacity to deal with things. Some people don’t have that on ANY day due to health issues, or depression, or general life related things. Sometimes our muses literally will ONLY reply to certain threads, and if we try to force them to reply to something else, they shut down. Muses have a mind of their own, and we cannot force them anymore than we can force another person to do anything they don’t want to. If you have a legitimate problem with someone, or want them to do better, talk politely with them about it. There is enough toxicity in the roleplay community in general without it being added to because of this update. If anything, we need to be MORE supportive right now, and mindful of others.
That said, please do your best to have fun, and take care of yourselves. Drink water, eat a snack, take your meds if you need to, and happy roleplaying.
