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[dracodramon]

Sometimes, loving someone means realizing that while they are a good person, they are just not a good match for you. They can be the most amazing person in the world but sometimes things just don't work. You can still love them, and realize that you are better apart. You can want it to work with all your heart, and yet it won't. You can still want to be friends, because you do love them, but being together just hurts you both more than you are capable of handling. Sometimes, time spent away makes you realize you are better off apart, and gives you an outside perspective. Sometimes you realize it's been over for you for a while, maybe months, but you love them so you didn't want to admit it. Sometimes things just fail, and it's not because you were an awful person or failed in some way. Sometimes the love languages just don't match, or mental health gets in the way, and sometimes people aren't equipped to handle it or understand the way we need them to. And it honestly sucks. You can still want so badly for it to work, and still have meant everything you ever said, but have to accept that it won't. Sometimes, even though it's wonderful most of the time, love also just sucks.

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PSA about Toxic Behavior

It’s ridiculous that I even have to make a post like this, but if someone on tumblr, or discord, or anywhere doesn’t give you constant attention, it does not give you the right to gaslight them, guilt them, or harass them. Having your friends stalk their blogs and posts to give you all the little details of what they are doing is also not okay. If your behavior is making someone afraid to even roleplay, then you are not a friend to that person, no matter how much you think you are. The tumblr roleplay community is a place people come to escape, to enjoy themselves, to have fun. It is a place people come to relieve stress, to make themselves happy. And if someone you consider a friend is currently having fun talking to someone else? Guess what? They’re allowed to. You might have no idea what is going on in their real life, and sometimes people have energy for one person and not another, because every person is different. Some people, through no fault of their own (or sometimes by their own fault, it depends), just take a lot of energy and effort to talk to, especially for someone with disabilities, or depression or energy issues. And people as time goes on, grow, and change, and either you grow the same way they do, or you don’t, and if you grow apart even with effort to keep the friendship going? Then that’s the breaks.

And if someone tells you that your behavior is problematic or toxic? It is up to YOU to fix it. It isn’t your friends’ obligation to constantly put up with your crappy behavior. And if you choose to make excuses, and not fix your own behavior, and just keep expecting people to put up with it forever? People have the right to stop being your friend. The world doesn’t revolve around you. Sure you’re allowed to have your own feelings, but just because your feelings are hurt don’t mean you get to trample on everyone else’s. Especially if it is caused by your own shitty behavior.

So if your response to not getting enough attention is to have your friends harass people, stalk them, or for you to gaslight them, guilt them, or otherwise make them feel like shit because YOU feel like shit, then you need to fuck right off. And take a good hard look at yourself, and maybe get therapy to fix your shitty, toxic, and quite frankly abusive behavior.

[dracodramon]

A Reminder For RPers

Since this update has many people upset and stressed out, and I have started to see some unpleasant things happening because of it, I wanted to post a reminder to not use it as an excuse to be a toxic person. A great many of us, especially in the roleplay community are upset and dislike this new update, and we didn’t want it either. But being upset is not an excuse to take your frustrations out on your friends, or RP partners. 

Please remember that many of us suffer from issues like depression and anxiety, not to mention all the stressful events happening in RL, and while this completely awful update may tempt some people to lash out, please keep in mind that you are not the only person who is stressed and upset. I have already seen posts saying that the xKit team is working on making tumblr usable for us by updating and fixing their extensions and giving us new ones, so hopefully we will have things back to functioning how we like them soon.

In the mean time, please don’t bully or guilt trip your friends or RP partners, and still be mindful of others. Your feelings are valid, and it is alright to be upset about it, or about other things, but in such a stressful time, with everything going on in RL please please please do not make your friends feel like shit. Roleplay is something many of use to help combat our depression, and anxiety, and some of us have health issues that make things difficult for us. We need to be able to relax and RP as we want to, and with who we see fit. No one has the right to tell anyone who they can and cannot RP with, or guilt others for not doing enough. 

If you want to RP with someone more, ask them. Start things. Send them memes or tag them in starters. But do not. DO NOT guilt people or bully them, or try to make them feel bad for not doing enough for you. Do not lash out at others because you are stressed. Some days, people just don’t have the energy or the mental or emotional capacity to deal with things. Some people don’t have that on ANY day due to health issues, or depression, or general life related things. Sometimes our muses literally will ONLY reply to certain threads, and if we try to force them to reply to something else, they shut down. Muses have a mind of their own, and we cannot force them anymore than we can force another person to do anything they don’t want to. If you have a legitimate problem with someone, or want them to do better, talk politely with them about it. There is enough toxicity in the roleplay community in general without it being added to because of this update. If anything, we need to be MORE supportive right now, and mindful of others.

That said, please do your best to have fun, and take care of yourselves. Drink water, eat a snack, take your meds if you need to, and happy roleplaying.

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Me: Y’know, being in a relationship sounds nice Brain: You don’t have the emotional stability nor capacity to be in any way romantically involved with anyone at the moment nor for a long time Me:

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