By mid 1764, Rose and Sophia were still fighting, and looked unlikely to stop anytime soon. Charley and Eleanor had tried on multiple occasions to end the war, but their actions were in vain and led only to more insults. After a while they decided that perhaps it would be best if they just let it fizzle out on its own. After all, they had little Lucy to take care of.
Likewise, Xan took a step back. He didn't want Sophia to hate him, but he didn't want Rose to hate him, either. So he still backed up Rose on her decisions, but refused to fight. Even at age nine, Xan wanted everyone to like him, and thought that was best achieved by diplomacy, not violence.
Eventually, the fight got to the point that as the big brother, Isaac had to step in. One day while the rest of the kids were occupied was out in the fields, Isaac called Rose into his room.
When they were seated on his bed, he said, "Rose, I wanted to talk to you about your fight with Sophia."
Rose frowned and stared straight ahead. "She started it."
"Can you tell me about it?"
"She read my diary. And she shouldn't have. And she's always so mean!"
"You're right, she shouldn't have read your diary," replied Isaac. He had a plan, but it required Rose figuring some things out on her own. But that didn't mean he couldn't give a little push. "But I don't know about her always being mean."
"Well, that's because she isn't mean to you."
"Have you ever thought about the fact that Sophia might feel a bit left out?"
Rose frowned. "I guess we don't really include her. But she never asked to be included, either."
"Some people have trouble asking things like that. As the oldest daughter, Rose, you're a role model for your little siblings. I'm not trying to put any pressure on you, but sometimes you need to do things that your siblings will copy, like asking someone to play. Do you understand?"
"Yes. But she still snooped in my diary."
"Tell me what, if Sophia apologizes to you, will you call off the fight?"
After a few moments of intense thinking, Rose agreed. "But only if she apologizes."
As Rose left, Isaac called, "Love you, Rosie-girl."