#rue rants

[theonehitwonder]

It fucking astounds me how many people completely understand “being treated like a child is horrible” but never reach the very logical conclusion of “we should not treat children like that”

[reverentrue]

imo majority of criticism targeted at the scarabia duo stems from a desire to treat their character traits in isolation: that's how you get "kalim as the victim of jamil's manipulation" truthers butting heads with "jamil as the victim of systemic injustice" truthers, even as both of them are reasonable interpretations of the text. scarabia's dynamic is that in which both kalim and jamil are the victims and the perpetrators/enablers, but to understand that you need to reject a reading of the book which is tied to one facet only.

both of them have character traits which complete the other: kalim is optimistic and empathetic (good for bonding with others, helping them navigate their feelings, and providing hope for them), jamil is reality-grounded and level-headed (good for detecting potential problems and resolving current ones); kalim is overly trusting and incredibly unqualified (bad because it makes him easy to exploit and frustrating to deal with), jamil is paranoid and unempathetic (bad because it makes him come off as very unlikeable at times and results in him using others without much remorse).

kalim provides emotional comfort, jamil provides physical comfort. very cloth mother vs wire mother of them. except, of course, for a healthy dorm balance you need both the solace and the nutrition.

because they enhance each other, they also bring out the worst in each other.

much of jamil's identity is inseparably connected to his status as a servant and the resentment he feels about it. kalim's kindness and forgiveness enable jamil to keep on venting his frustrations cruelly (by asserting his own usefulness as a servant through prohibiting kalim from acquiring actual life skills, rejecting kalim's numerous attempts to resolve whatever it is he can sense is bothering jamil, and unjustly insulting him) rather then productively (by stating his boundaries, drawing the lines, and making direct demands instead of passive aggressive quips).

similarly, because kalim's identity is so tied to his upbringing and status as an heir, he does not recognize the disparity between the two of them and takes jamil's insults in stride, as benevolently as somebody like him should. jamil suffering in silence and stewing in fear prevents kalim from doing something to rectify the wrongs (by finally separating jamil the friend from jamil the helpful servant, which he views as the same) and sanitize the wound (instead of letting it fester).

to put it plainly: jamil's personality is unpleasant, but the reasoning behind it is compelling; kalim's personality is compelling, but the social structure he personifies is unjust.

neither of them is the perfect victim. both of them kinda suck sometimes and that's the whole point. kalim thoughtlessly puts pressure on jamil. jamil uses kalim as the chew toy on which to take out his anger. they are human like that.

you can't criticize kalim's childishness without bringing up how much jamil stifles his attempts at growing (be that getting ice cream for his guests or cutting up ingredients with a knife to cook up a feast). you can't criticize jamil's manipulativeness without bringing up the cause for it (the fear of what an honest act of defiance might bring and the malicious image of kalim he has created in his mind to represent the hierarchy, which forms that fear). you have to see the whole picture.

tldr:

[rue-cimon]

if humans have vampire kink then do vampires have a human kink?

[lightbroughtinbuckets]

need someone to write keith having one of those meltdowns where you hate the way your skin fits so wrong over your body and you hate your room because it doesn't feel like yours and you're so mad at your friends and you hate them and you hate you and you hate everything because it's so incredibly overwhelming and god doesn't it ever stop going and going and screaming in your ears for fuck's sake—

and then lance. that little inkling of hope. that small, glistening silvery thread of peace. that comforting presence that comes in to scrub away the sounds that echo and the gnats that persist; that warm sip of whiskey that burns away your greatest sins and deepest fears. and suddenly, it seems that every painful, suffocating minute you've suffered, has been worth it, for just this one, glorious gasp of air.

that's what klance is to me.

[doegirldaydreamer]

God forbid a girl wants a guy who has dreams and doesn’t want to live on a council estate for the rest of his life and has hobbies and has just enough maturity to know how to talk to a fucking woman jesus fucking christ

[doegirldaydreamerarchived]

‘And you say that like you’re right’ well i wouldnt fucking be saying it if i thought it was wrong would i u fucking melt

[a-whispering-echo]

friendly reminder you are not BETTER than anyone else because you work entirely with canon while others make their characters their own.

youre allowed to do what you want, and so are other people. if someone is clearly stating a headcanon and has made something that is NOT explicitly canon, while also having an explanation and lore around why things are they way they are s said media? they DONT want you input of 'uhm actually, this isnt accurate to canon' because in all likelihood? they KNOW that! especially if the thing you are complaining about isnt somthing that goes AGAINT the characters personality but is just a shift or a bonus thing added on to make the character their own.

long story short. you are NOT better than ANYONE else. and you need to learn this, because YOU are what causes people to quit and lose interest in things they once found enjoyable. if you do not like it, block and move on. thats IT.

[furious-pastel-pink]

Guys i may be about to go through a very terrible break up. I am going to need your help to distract me.

My bf is apologizing and admitting to all his wrongs and is asking me to give him one more chance for when I go visit but I don't think I am able too. Like i and heartbroken right not and I don't think there's anything he can do to fix that.