#self confience

[submissivefeminist]

Any advice for sluts with low self-confidence?

"Fake it 'til you make it" isn't the worst advice but it's not something everyone is capable of. I find that a little social lubricant helps me relax a little to pretend to be more confident than I actually am but that's just me.

Maybe I'm not the best person to ask this one since I constantly struggle with it, myself. 😅

[adararosefanfic]

I am a great author. 

[poopolon]

I have more porno accounts following me than....

[evdarcy]

If you don’t have the gall to believe in yourself and your work, no one else will. Bring it. Own it.

HM Ward

http://www.hmward.com/index.html

[world-of-rewind-blog]

I am so done. My mom has officially ruined my relationship with her. She has a bad habit of letting her temper rule her life, but I have had to put up with this crap for too long. This weekend, we were out shopping and I refused to go into a store and shop there because it was too expensive. My mom then proceeded to call me a "spoiled brat who complains to much" because of this. WTF I mean I was trying to be considerate and not spend all of my parents hard earned money and that makes me selfish? She then goes to my dad (my favorite of the two parents btw... And she knows this and therefore tries to make my life a living hell because of it) and she goes on this 15 minute rant about how I'm a terrible child who only cares about myself and how he needs to step up as a father and take charge and punish me. Well my dad and I are so chill that I know he wouldn't do that and my mom knows that too, so she basically flips out on him and treated him like shit. WHICH HE DOESN'T FRICKING DESERVE. But here's the last straw. Today, she was driving me home from school and we parked in a shopping center. I asked what we were doing and then she said I had a haircut scheduled for like two minutes from then. WTF I mean could I at least get a notice beforehand??? Also, I love my long hair and she hates it. It took me forever to grow out and I think she thinks I just grew it out to antagonize her...which isn't true. Still she has been trying to get me to cut it for months. The thing is, my long hair was the on,y thing that truly made me feel pretty, and when we went in she forced the lady to cut off over four inches. FOUR FRICKING INCHES. I had no say in the matter whatsoever. She deliberately took off the one thing that gave me self confidence. AND SHE KNOWS IT. This is her payback for wrongs that I never did. Anyways after this she got made at me for complaining about it. First of all, I was trying to hide how I felt about it by saying nice things...NO COMPLAINTS. But the thing is, even if I did complain about it, it's not like I had a choice. She knew full well that I hate my hair short and that I did not get to choose to have it cut. IT WAS FORCED ON ME. So in conclusion, I had every right to complain. Long story short: I hate myself even more now, and my mom is a jerk. End of Rant

[phayzzed]

To everyone who thinks they'll be ugly forever, take a look at Barbara Dunkleman from Rooster Teeth. Look at their first videos, from when yet were about fifteen. Barbara had headgear and acne along with crazy hair. Look at her now, she looks fucking photoshopped. Just remember no one really cares what you look like. Be who you wanna be, you could be like Barbara.

[youdbeagoodpirate]

[itsoktobethin-blog]

Master Post: Self Confidence, or Lack Thereof

I see a lot of people posting things where they complain about how fucked up society is. How because society thinks one way they have to feel bad about it. I see so much posted in the "Thin Privilege" tag about how since the US is a diet society they have to feel bad about being fat.  This, ladies and gentlemen, is utter bull shit. 

Many of these so called problems stem from a lack of self esteem. For example, when a guy prefers your friend over you. OK, you're going to feel like shit for a while. But then turn that thought around and just remind yourself that it was his loss. You don't have to feel bad because he decided something, you don't have to blame society (because the choice is entirely his own). If you allow yourself to feel like shit for longer than you need to then you are only doing yourself a disservice. 

Another example, when someone lies to their friends about not wanting to go to the pool because they are embarrassed about how they look. Did you notice how many times I said they? Not once is it about how they had to lie to their friends because society told them to. No they lied because they weren't confident enough to say screw you guys, I'm gonna have fun, I don't give a shit what I look like. 

I could go on with more examples, but I think you get the point. Now, I understand that there are varying degrees of self confidence. But all in all. You simply cannot blame "society" for making you feel bad. Only you are in control of what does or does not make you feel a certain way. I'm not saying you can't throw yourself a pity party every now and again, but don't let them rule your life. If you want to feel pretty, feel pretty. If you want to  feel ugly, then feel ugly. But again, don't blame others for your lack of self confidence.