#self esteeem

[forever-reading]

I am worthy just as I am

affirmation, January 6th 2020

[robottumblr]

What My Actions are Dictated By

What should your actions be dictated by: others, or yourself? It’s obviously not just one or the other, but where do you draw the line? Where is the edge of social deviance? Do you wear a tie-dye shirt to work? If you click the lights on and off 2 times every time you enter a room should that be changed? Or, because it doesn’t hurt anyone, and you don’t mind doing it, should others just live with the oddity? I’ve been thinking a lot about this, and asking others. I have been sitting wherever I want, doing what I want, with no regards to how others may view me, as I try to sort out this odd quandary. I think I have come to the conclusion that everyone’s line is somewhat different, and you have to look inside yourself to see what dictates your actions, and what your core values are, and what motivates you through trial and error.  My core values/motivations are: I am trying to help the human race with the thoughts I come up with; I am trying to think up a thesis/book that will help bridge the human race, and solve the deep miscommunication problems we are having. Call me crazy–but everyone who has done big things has started with insane ideas resting on a foundation on uncertainty. So if someone thinks I’m weird, or doesn’t want to interact due to my odd actions, like talking to myself or staring into space, so be it. I cannot let the unfounded judgments of distant others dictate my actions when I know my intents are pure, and not hurting anyone of a trusting, intelligent mind. Research has no time for bullies or people who look at you sideways–they are the ones left behind and, frankly, the people I am trying to help. Never let anyone stop you from progressing thoughts you think will improve yourself or the world. Take the next step in thought, see where it leads you. Thanks for reading. Repeat music: Photay, Sloth (feat. Mood Tattooed): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jFGr7KrgRbU

[intp-conquest]

No good purpose is ever served by assaulting a child's self-esteem. . This is the first rule of effective criticism. We do not inspire better behavior by impugning a child's worth, intelligence, morality, character, intentions, or psychology. No one was ever made "good" by being informed he or she was "bad."

Nathaniel Branden, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem

[franqgoesontheroad]

Teach em! Respect yourself!

[honestavengers]

Black Widow, I am sorry but I do feel ugly, I always have done and I have been trying to change but I can't change my physical appearance anymore. I look in the mirror and cry I break down in changing rooms. I picked cosplays I should have because I know only beautiful people can pull them off and that is not me. Sorry for taking up your time. - Lily

Lilly, you shouldn’t have to change your appearance to feel beautiful. Not all beauty comes from within. But if you feel so uncertain with your appearance, why don’t you talk to someone about it? A friend or family member? You shouldn’t do a cosplay to be beautiful, you should do it so you feel beautiful and enjoy your day. You decided to cosplay as me, right? Well, make me look amazing in your eyes. Make me be a part of you on that day. Cosplay as me and make yourself feel strong and powerful. You are always beautiful and you’re beautiful to me.

You own that cosplay Lilly.

Black Widow.

[honestavengers]

Hey, u can call me sam. Iv been kinda unhappy with my body/ my appearance in general like my breasts,stomache and hair and I dont really want to deel that way. Il feel completely okay with my body one day then hate it a day later. Idk what to do

Hey Sam! Darcy here. 

Hating your body is, unfortunately, something I know about all too well. I mean, I know that it comes off like I love everything and I’m really confident, but that’s just all faked so I can seem like I have my life together. 

Sam, lemme tell you something. Even though you may hate your body and how you look, as long as you’re eating right and taking care of yourself, it doesn’t matter what size you are. There’s TONS of very thin people who have high metabolisms and eat a ton, and there’s tons of fat people that have slow metabolisms and eat healthier than you can even comprehend. The way your body looks is mostly determined by your genetics, which determines your metabolism and other stuff that balances how you look. So as long as you take care of yourself, your body will do it’s thang and you’ll be healthy!

As for your hair, if you don’t like it, change it! Get cut, get it colored, shave it off, grow it out, style it differently, do anything that will make it be a little different! And even though shaving it off or coloring it or e ven just cutting it may seem a little drastic, I promise, your hair will grow back. (In 9th grade I got this pixie cut, and it was the most punk rock thing ever, and my hair did grow back and now I’m really happy with it:) ) there’s TONS of blogs and pinterest pins and boards and websites that are full of different cut and color ideas that you can check out! If cutting/coloring/shaving is too much for you right now, try styling it differently. There’s tons of previously mentioned blogs and websites and pinterest boards that are full of cute and easy hair styles that you can try.

Sam, you’ve got this, my friend. I promise you, your body is 100% not what you think it is. It’s perfect for you. It’s the only body you have, so be kind to it <3

xoxoxo

Darcy

[pug-athora]

Honestly the most beautiful music video and song ever . 

This song actually helped me a lot , I’m so fucking thankful for this song .

[morgzillas-blog]

Sometimes I feel like I'm THAT person, the one that the everyone just thinks "Ugh I hated her, at leady she's fat now."