#self help?

[pathsleadingaway]

Trying my best to remember that any Thoughts or Feelings I have about myself after 9 pm are fake and should be ignored. other people mostly don’t want to push me into the scary pond at the water treatment facility for crimes of being the most annoying guy ever invented

[temporalbystander]

Doing this as a reminder to myself and a PSA to all who need it.

The people you follow aren't posting about you. Posts that they reblog aren't about you. They do not hate you or what you're doing just because you think you do something similar to what they said they dislike.

Tumblr is called a hellsite for a reason. People aren't shy about sharing criticism or death threats. If you were annoying someone they'd tell you, or block you. There's no such thing as passive aggression here unless it's describing actions seen or taken elsewhere.

So if you see something that resonates with something you do, they weren't thinking about you I promise. Instead why don't you think of all the reasons why it doesn't apply to you and maybe work on the one or two details that might?

[illidanstr]

oh I miss games

real time strategy and civ hit the same part of my brain.  I’ve never felt so engaged.  this is more powerful than any stimulant.  I feel ALIVE.

I wonder what else can create this all-encompassing feeling. 

so.  many.  thoughts.  I close my eyes and I see the undulating line of soldiers coming in you don’t want to ball so split like marines vs banelings but your job here is to surround and mix but the technique is the same grab the guys in front and pull them back pull the back in and pull the sides out envelop that line

are you training soldiers?  yes yes yes they aren’t building why aren’t they building you’re pop capped oh shit he’s pulling his troops back don’t want to chase why are we pop capped?  grab those five builders no not the whole batch on shit that’s going to fuck up lumber mining dammit troops don’t fucking chase you idiots pull back he’s coming in haha that’s an overextension envelop click box move click box move click box move we’re low on wood why are we low on wood should’ve used farmers to build those houses I interrupted the damn wood line - let’s barter the exchange rate on the market will be terrible still better than stopping the assembly line dontcha know.. 

if I could get something in life which feels that not boring which is that much of a mental rest I would rejoice forever

I feel so at peace.  I feel calm I feel invigorated I feel like that is what my brain is meant to do as an activity as a form as a flow but the practical rewards of gaming aside from a contented and blissed mind are... limited 

[imeverywhere2]

Sometimes even a month isn't enough.

And that's ok

[nut-meats]

permanently oscillating between "wow glad im not like that" and "damn shit maybe i'm like that i should reconsider my entire personality"

but i do accept feedback and conflict and change my opinion when i encounter new information (not gracefully lmao but i do change it) so honestly if im a problem it's the world's fault for not letting me know about it

[sincerestarlight]

The Introverts Guide to The Meaning of Life.

Yeah the title is a bit grandiose but I like it.

This is coming from a place where I wanted to be able to help people. I don’t always know the best words to express what I think when I speak but lately I’ve wanted to work in a space where I could just speak at length about what I feel I’ve learned in my life. About how I think and relate to people and the world at large. And I wanted to do so in a space I felt would maybe be seen and help a person or two.

Hence I made the decision to come to Tumblr.

Call it Madness or Wisdom, you’re still probably right.

So this is going to be my partial diary, partial wisdom blog, partial hard record for whatever therapist wants to look at me down the road. Hopefully they appreciate the documentation.

So I guess the first thing I want to kinda dwell on is, as the caterpillar asks…

Who are you?

TBH I think about this question a lot. Sure I can answer with my name, and that’s indeed who I am in society, but where I begin questioning is who I am to myself.

To anyone who is reading this, Lils is fine.

One of the things I’ve always had a problem with is trying to describe myself. The concept of ice breaking activities fills me with dread, or more commonly these days it’s the ominous “tell me some of your strengths and weaknesses”.

Whoever came up with that question needs to be sentenced to having to use the bathroom on stage in front of an audience.

Seriously there are no good answers to that question! If you say to many good things, or those good things in the wrong way, you’re perceived as arrogant. If you say to many negative things, you lack confidence, or worse they lowball you in pay cause they think you won’t fight back.

And the thing is that you should have confidence in yourself! We are in a big old universe that, as far as we know, stretches on for immeasurable lengths, distances where you can only measure in how many years it would take light to reach it *and it can still be millions of years*

On top of that matter that had at one point just been floating in the void floated into each other *so hard* that it became a giant floating rock. Then this rock managed, through scientific fuckery, make water! An atmosphere! *Fucking Life*. And whatever you think about *what* made life, the fact is that from there, millions of years passed, dinosaurs happened, then they stopped, then humans. Greece, Rome, Wars, and all that time has led to you.

You.

And then fuckin life happens.

Oh yeah, it’s a miracle but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck a whole bunch of nards. Christ almighty, it’s a miracle when a kid makes it out of high school without some form of lasting trauma. And then we mold ourselves around that trauma, in the worst case passing those issues onto the next generation.

Why bring up trauma? Well I think that’s why I have a problem with the initial question of who I am.

I used to really like ice breaking activities when I was younger. I always saw them as an opportunity to make friends, maybe if we have similar likes or interests, one of the peeps in my new class will like it too, and we can bond over it and then boom, friend made. So a lot of times, I would talk about what I liked, or things I learned from properties that I liked. It seldom worked the way I expected, but again, stories for another time.

That was my safe spot you know? The things that I liked. I knew those. Give me two options and I can tell you what one I prefer. Tv shows? No problem. Video games? Piece of cake. Sportsball games? I might not be super into them but I can tell you what team I prefer over a different one, even if it’s just based on their uniforms or mascot game.

But then everything changed when the question did.

See, you *have* to go to school. You *have* to do your homework. For stricter upbringings like mine you *have* to get good grades. Living within those confines is it’s own form of comfort. You know what you’re going to do, the question was doing it in a fashion that you like. And after many years of picking between Pokémon starters, that was an easy task. But then one day, maybe later than other people, I wasn’t asked “what do you like”

I was asked “what do you want to do.”

For some people, that question is easy. They know what they want to do. Doctors, artists, scientists, parents, people know what they want to do and the most tenacious of us make it with jobs in their chosen field and I am genuinely thrilled for people who follow their passion. But when I was addressed with that question, I froze. Want was never included in my world up to that point. There were things that sure, if I had complete freedom and unlimited money I’d like to do, but being invested in anything like that was merely fantasy. Sure, being able to lie on the beach in a nice chair with a book in hand sounds like paradise but it’s not really a realistic goal. Same with world domination.

After that I struggled…a lot. I started learning about the things that I like, maybe I could refine down what it was that I liked about them and magically, like an epiphany, I would see the thing that would make me happy, the passion and determination that others had when it came to their craft. But nothing came. I got a retail job after that and spent a good long time basically chasing that next bit of Serotonin. Nothing dangerous but definitely not good for my mental health. If passion wasn’t in my future the least I could hope for would be comfort.

Then I moved into my own place. I had a job that could (barely) afford, and then I looked around and said “well. Now what?”

That was the goal. Self sustainability. And I don’t mean to sound dour about the whole thing, it’s an accomplishment that I am proud of, but a ghost loomed over my head. The concept that now that I am self sustainable, what did I want to do? Obviously there are limits, but now I could exist beholden to no one but myself and…I didn’t know what to do with it. I still don’t. and it’s felt very lonely. Lonely because I feel this bright passion inside of me and I have no way to share it. No way for it to exist in this world.

I don’t know what I want to do but I want to do something.

I want to live my life in joy

I want to love whomever I want at my own pace

I want to be passionate and excited and run into the future with the confidence of the ball of conscious stardust that I am.

And even if no one reads this, writing it down helped a lot. The fact that the very thought exists somewhere helps.

[theoneintheband-yeahthatone]

guess who’s going to the psychiatrist next week?

it’s been almost a year since i’ve been and i’ve needed to for so long to change my meds. dammit i hope my therapist isnt a dick.