#self relationship

[ligeiahawthorne]

✮⋆˙ sometimes i remember when i lived out of a duffel bag and slept on an air mattress in my friend's room and every day was both exciting and scary bc i had nothing but all that and no idea what i was doing or where i was going and things were chaotic ~all the time~

✮⋆˙ then i relax into pure gratitude for the life i live now, i sleep in a bed, my own bed. i have someone patient and understanding and loving and fun and intellectually curious. i have a group of friends who i'm only kind of afraid of sometimes (and that's just regular anxiety, not like, abuse-pattern-awareness anxiety). i have a flexible routine i follow that changes with the seasons. i get to eat food and not freak out about it. the food i eat doesn't have to be stolen from the condiment section at convenience stores. and i reached a place where i finally escaped my family of origin for good.

✮⋆˙ wish i could go back in time and tell duffel bag-air mattress me that we made it 🖤

[angelaeleni]

After a busy day of interacting, is time to nourish the most personal relationship; the one with yourself. Put all the things away and be with you.

[healthyrelationshipsuggestions]

I feel so down for still loving my ex, when she has moved on it hurts like hell

It hurts to love and not be loved back, especially when that love used to be returned. That is never going to be easy. 

Honestly, I get mad when I think I love someone more than they love me. I feel embarrassed and pathetic for it. I wish I fell out of love before they did because then I wouldn’t be the one feeling this way. 

It’s okay to feel all of that, not that I’m presuming your exact feelings. It’s okay to be hurt, it’s okay to feel upset, but the thing is, it’s also okay to still love them, too.

You care about her. She was important to you. She is still important to you. To admit that she is important and that you love her still is honest and brave. 

It’s going to hurt, but it’s important to try and be gentle with yourself and your feelings. Love is such a tender thing to feel. It makes you vulnerable and it is the bravest thing to be vulnerable. 

At some point, it might hurt less. Your feelings may transform and you might be able to say to yourself, “Yes, she was important. Yes I loved her, and maybe some part of me always will, but that is in the past now, and I’m okay with it being there.”

[angelaeleni]

As you continue to make the choice to honestly open up to experiencing your inner truth and honestly honour it in each moment, you are able to receive snd experience a greater ease, flow, abundance and clarity. The answers you are seeking exist largely within your self-connection

[angelaeleni]

For you to have a healthy attachment style with others, see how you can create that for yourself too. See how you can show up for yourself so that you don’t feel self-abandoned. See how you can be kind to yourself so you don’t feel self-abused. See how you can lovingly and compassionately be there for yourself releasing judgement and shame, accepting whatever just is in it’s entirely before trying to find solutions and create change, which inevitably will come from that point of acceptance.

[angelaeleni]

You have the power to shift your current experience, no matter how trapped you feel. The shift can begin from within and ripple outwards. You are so innately powerful; you don’t need to use the power of force, but internally exploring and embracing the self, allowing yourself to internally let go of what you no longer need and allowing what is of greater alignment and expansion for you, to replace it. Start within and it will always ripple outward.

[angelaeleni]

I’m noticing how much more I truly wish to be there for myself, by noticing how much I wish to be externally seen and recognised for who I truly am. I realise that as I continue to truly show up for myself and see myself truthfully, I will also experience more beautiful interactions and connections with others where we see each other for who we truly are.