#boundary setting

[theslenderversesystem]

Boundary ask game!

🪨 — what pronouns and/or names do you prefer?

🌪️ — what type of asks are okay and which ones aren't?

🍃 — are you fine with (online) physical touch? If so, what types are you fine with and not?

🪴 — are you fine with direct messages through Tumblr and/or another app?

🪵 — is discourse allowed on your blog?

💧 — what topics should stay off of your blog?

🌴 — are you alright with request asks?

🍄 — are you alright with constructive criticism?

🌈 — what types of discourse should stay off of your blog?

🌺 — is (joke/romantic/friendly) flirting okay?

🍂 — is requesting to be your friend okay?

🪹 — is roleplaying on your blog alright?

🏔️ — what type of jokes are okay on your blog?

🪾 — what types of responses to your vents would not be preferred?

[itsaspectrumcomic]

I've been trying to get better at knowing my limits and following my instincts instead of always trying to keep up with everyone else

[claracedar]

"When a woman gets thirty messages from a pursuer and doesn't call him back, but then finally gives in and returns his calls, no matter what she says, he learns that the cost of reaching her is leaving thirty messages. For this type of man, any contact will be seen as progress. Of course, some victims are worried that by not responding, they'll provoke him, so they try letting him down easy. Often, the result is that he believes she is conflicted, uncertain, really likes him but just doesn't know it yet."

--- from the book "The gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence" by Gavin de Becker

[mindinthevoid]

[kellymagovern]

Christopher Walken teaching me how to set boundaries. 😂

[dumbwshae]

dear fellow subs ♡

never feel too bad to block a hypnotist if they disregard your boundaries.

the first boundary i set with a hypnotist was that i refuse to send pictures of myself to people i don't really know because no matter how well we know each other, we're still just strangers on the internet. he installed a trigger and then tried to use it to get a picture out of me while i was under. i never snapped out of trance faster. when i stopped replying for a few moments because i needed to pull myself together, he said it was 'just a joke'. i don't know about you but this is not a joking matter when your subject is in a trance. when your subject laid out their boundaries for you and you cross them the first chance you get. i didn't even reply again and just blocked him.

so don't let people shame you for protecting your peace! the only mistake i think i did is that i didn't tell him how fucked up it was to use it only a few minutes after i set that boundary before i blocked him.

be safe, darlings! ♡

[positivelypresent]

Some sentences to help you set boundaries!

[luxuryandlilacs]

Suffering is not a virtue.