#selfishness vs selflessness

[skylarstar1000]

Question of the day!!!!

YOU KNOW WHAT DAY IT IS

I wanna see you defending your answer.

Wedding or Callback???

Wedding

Callback

Voting ended onApr 14

[let-roman-bite-someone]

can we bring poorly edited shitty memes back?

[paytonthefrog]

I’m finally finished!! This took roughly 14-15 hours of my life I honestly don’t regret

Thank you to the 6 people who reblogged the original wip with nice comments - you guys are a big reason for why I got around to finishing this

And here are the tags for who requested them: @5am-the-foxing-hour @iamthedestroyer-grr-argh

[parkerjams]

moceit with the dynamic of

“i’ve never done anything for anyone but myself. i will build walls and isolate myself if it means avoiding the potential of getting hurt. the world is out to get me, and i will not be caught with my guard down. nothing has ever mattered more than my own self interest.

except you.”

x

“i am nothing if i’m not helping others. when considering a path of action, my own wants and needs are barely (if ever) taken into account. i have done nothing in life but be at the service of others because it is the right thing to do. there’s no other option. i’ve never pursued anything just because it’s something i truly desire.

except you.”

[pattons-time-capsule]

“chat are you seeing this shit???”

[nonmanprince]

the better svs ending

[tobathon]

this is an incredibly lazy edit tbh because i lose motivation to edit so quickly and i KNOW its gonna be another month before i even wanna edit… sigh… best episode tho prove me wrong

[loganslowdown4]

You know, coming back to SvS: Redux this year after WIDS, I have some different thoughts…

I'm only now just realizing the importance of Patton's whole argument through the video. What he was saying about spending time and money morally because people don't actually do that on a regular basis. Yes a lot of day to day life is spent on responsibilities: jobs, families, pets, basic care, but for a lot of the rest of the time, leisure time is usually spent selfishly. And this ISN’T said to demonize anyone’s day to day rest time, people NEED this time to recoup, and plan vacations between work/school. As with everything, we must have balance.

But when do people regularly volunteer, donate or pick up trash? Maybe some do this on the regular, that's amazing. Maybe others only have a couple days a year to spend on this kind of thing, that's all okay.

What I'm saying is, Janus’ counter argument plays to cThomas' already fragile mood from Patton’s chastising. CThomas was already feeling bad, questioning if he was a bad person, which made him have enough anxiety that he had intrusive thoughts, and by SvS:Redux, he's actually getting angry. Angry by his decisions to be a 'good' person and not receive any reward for it.

What Patton was saying was NOT what Thomas wanted to hear. He wanted a side of himself to say YES it's ok to be selfish because your mental health deserves it. You deserve it for being so good all the time! And I'm not saying Janus is wrong in the short term, but Roman was right to question him. WHEN is it enough?

When will Thomas actively do good again for the sake of doing good? Janus convinced Patton that it was okay, and Patton relented almost immediately because of his guilt.

I keep thinking about this because I wonder if it’ll be addressed again since WIDS came out. Can cThomas be as selfish as he wants now that he’s decided to try and be with Nico or will that selfishness affect their relationship? Did the decision of going for Nico’s affection in fact tie into his self-care/selfish forward tendencies? Will he learn true balance is actually only being ‘selfish’ some of the time does NOT actually make you a bad person? Things to think about…