#wids

[owlmam]

two faces one the same coin

[logan-exe]

Why is Dating Scary? ─── Sanders Sides

TS Rise Up & Sink Down

[mentalmeyers]

i cant imagine being janus. like your function and purpose is so closely tied to self-preservation and keeping the most important person in your world alive, and you so infrequently get to Use this purpose. youd burn the world down for this guy, you'd do ANYTHING for him. and not only do you Not get to do that, but also he doesnt trust you. hes starting to come around but hes spent his whole life afraid of you, hating you.

youd burn the world down for him, you never get to. you just sit in the dark corner of his mind, watching, trying to help. saying "if i could. i WOULD" you want nothing except his happiness and survival, and yet still, parts of him hate you.

what a life that must be

[plaguednarration]

The gang’s all here…..

[greenestcubes]

Theres something very special to me about WTIT (and FWSA to a lesser extent) because we really get to see how the sides' struggles manifest in Thomas' real life. He is struggiling he is alone he is awkward hes desperate for connection. But we never see these struggles because so many of them are social.

Because c!Thomas plays a larger role in the episodes, we can see how his internal struggles bar him from connecting with people and living his life. It's an aspect of his life that normally we dont get to explore BECAUSE his coping mechanisms involve self-isolating and working through problems internally.

But ironically, thats PART of the reason he is so alone, because he doesn't reach out and talk to others as often as he should.

The idea that he should talk to Nico at the end of WIDS is a revelation! It was genuinly not something he had been considering. But because thats outside of the scope of the show, its not something the audience considers either!

The format of Sanders Sides really conceals c!Thomas' fundamental problem, which is feeling alone, in such a subtly devastating way.

[repost-stuff-owlmam]

That kitchen scene:

[loganslowdown4]

You know, coming back to SvS: Redux this year after WIDS, I have some different thoughts…

I'm only now just realizing the importance of Patton's whole argument through the video. What he was saying about spending time and money morally because people don't actually do that on a regular basis. Yes a lot of day to day life is spent on responsibilities: jobs, families, pets, basic care, but for a lot of the rest of the time, leisure time is usually spent selfishly. And this ISN’T said to demonize anyone’s day to day rest time, people NEED this time to recoup, and plan vacations between work/school. As with everything, we must have balance.

But when do people regularly volunteer, donate or pick up trash? Maybe some do this on the regular, that's amazing. Maybe others only have a couple days a year to spend on this kind of thing, that's all okay.

What I'm saying is, Janus’ counter argument plays to cThomas' already fragile mood from Patton’s chastising. CThomas was already feeling bad, questioning if he was a bad person, which made him have enough anxiety that he had intrusive thoughts, and by SvS:Redux, he's actually getting angry. Angry by his decisions to be a 'good' person and not receive any reward for it.

What Patton was saying was NOT what Thomas wanted to hear. He wanted a side of himself to say YES it's ok to be selfish because your mental health deserves it. You deserve it for being so good all the time! And I'm not saying Janus is wrong in the short term, but Roman was right to question him. WHEN is it enough?

When will Thomas actively do good again for the sake of doing good? Janus convinced Patton that it was okay, and Patton relented almost immediately because of his guilt.

I keep thinking about this because I wonder if it’ll be addressed again since WIDS came out. Can cThomas be as selfish as he wants now that he’s decided to try and be with Nico or will that selfishness affect their relationship? Did the decision of going for Nico’s affection in fact tie into his self-care/selfish forward tendencies? Will he learn true balance is actually only being ‘selfish’ some of the time does NOT actually make you a bad person? Things to think about…

[riftydoodles]

Rewatching Why is Dating Scary and mini Virgil saying ‘i’m sorry’ to ears who can’t hear him crushes me every single time