As a survivor of ten years of emotional, financial, sexual and physical abuse by my husband and five years of (still) trying to get the fuck out of the marriage there really is nothing worse than being accused of defending someone else's abuser, and defending his rights, by your own mother especially when all you said was that you hoped the woman involved had got orders and paperwork and was doing things by the book rather than just running away, so that he couldn't go after her claiming she stole his child!
She always thought I should stay, she never believed me when I asked for help, not once in the whole 10 years, and she still justifies his behaviour as being because he 'loved me'. But I thought we'd moved forward more than this!!












