okay i feel like mary not having a grading rubric for sons feels like a punishment in and of itself to dean. especially given how john had both spoken rules for Good Grades in Son and unspoken ones dean prides himself on learning. like dean tries to get an attaboy from mom and nothing can do it and so i wonder if, on some level, it feels like he just hasn't found thee thing. he'll be trying forever. unable to conceptualize a parent that doesn't grade and so instead he's thinking of her as having standards he can't deduce and thus is probably failing automatically
and meanwhile mary's like why does this adult man want me to give him stickers for good behavior
Yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah. Dean is the type of mother he wants to have - he silently gives things up for sam and he brags on the kid. Deans a “yeah wel MY kid did this and this” type of parent. Mary is not. And deans like. Well if you actually love a kid and aren’t the can of worms that is John winchester. You SHOULD do those things. You should silently sacrifice and you should ruffle their hair and say that’s great and all Roberta that your son’s a doctor but MY kid won the cooking competition at the state fair 3 years in a row. But Mary’s not like that! She’s like. I love you because you’re my kid. I’m proud of what you grew up to be. End of conversation. And dean god bless him goes mother HATES me mother wants me to be something I’m not but won’t tell me what it is
