A Salute to Young Opinions
Recently, scrolling through my Tumblr, I came across a “reblog” from a young man in Texas I follow. I was initially introduced to his Tumblr by my husband (an avid photographer) who showed me some of the young man’s reblogs of mountain photos, idyllic settings, and some of the more humorous gifs, pics, and text posts. I was surprised to find that the young man was still in High School as I pegged him to be older given the maturity of content.
I know that last statement might seem a bit elitist but understand were my perspective comes from. I have been teaching composition (primarily argumentative writing) at the university level for the last few years. Prior to that, I had been in the military, served as a police officer and worked with all walks of life in the hospitality industry—from the greasy spoon to the private home of a billionaire. My experiences give my a uniquely but thoroughly shaped view on most subjects and the ability to view them through a variety of lenses and perspectives.
It is in my role as an educator that I find myself most disappointed. As an instructor of argumentative writing, I require my students to pick a topic they find most interesting, irritating, or enlightening. At the beginning of every new class, I find the same struggle—apathy. It is surprising to me that the most connected and informed generation in history is so apathetic. Anytime a student takes an active interest in a topic I encourage them to dig deep and think critically about the subject. Anytime they have an ardent but one-sided view on something, I push them to examine the other side and challenge their thinking. This usually either strengthens their resolve or opens their mind to a new path. So, believe me when I say I get excited when students have an opinion on anything.
Now, given that context, the fact that this young man exerts an opinion is refreshing to me. After the incidents of this summer in Ferguson and New York City, he began reblogging posts that seemed a little one-sided. Respecting his opinion, I would typically overlook those posts, only occasionally mentioning my “concern” to my husband. One of the last few posts he reblogged was a black and white picture of Darren Wilson in the hospital with the word “MURDERER” stamped across it. As someone who has worn the badge and grown up with law enforcement, I can say I have an understanding of how police officers are trained and function. These cases have suggested that all cops are criminals and every suspect is a saint. In the case of Darren Wilson, the evidence, scientific data, and eye-witness testimony (both for the suspect and the officer) point in Mr. Wilson’s favor. Yet, the public generally chose to ignore that. But this isn’t why I’m posting this.
I came the closest at that point that I ever had to responding to someone’s post. I typically opt not to because I know how pointless an argument over the internet can be and futile arguing with a 17 year-old, opinionated or not, can be. I opted to let it go.
The next day, he reblogged a “vine” of a young black girl making a joke about “killing someone” in the third grade and brandishing a toy gun. That was the post that burst my bubble. Out of genuine concern and hope for a “learning” opportunity, I broke “radio silence” and reached out to the young man. I was half surprised that he responded and yet half not surprised he responded. His counterpoint, while outlined with what I read as a bit of snark, was well-formed and I could respect his logic. His last statement about how the little girl was only joking [paraphrasing there] was what nulled his argument for me.
Too often I have seen the statement “I was only joking” used as a defense or to explain away some accident. As I indicated to the young man, my hope for this little girl is that her parents teach her that while it might be humorous in that moment in that context, that statements like that can get her in trouble in the future. I say that of children of all ages, genders, and ethnic descent. I worry about any 8 year-old, or any young child, who can make that “joke” at such a young age. What are they learning? Where are they learning it? How are they learning it?
After a couple of back-and-forths between he and I (and apparently others), the young man acknowledged that the post had received a lot of negative attention. By the time he had reblogged it, it had acquired nearly a half-million “likes” and reblogs. He acknowledged that he, in the moment, found it funny and reblogged it without thinking. This is not an acknowledgement of wrong-doing, nor do I think he should. I am glad that I was able to challenge his thinking. I think too often, people in our society are quick to become armchair activists and social media protestors. i think too often, their activism changes with the news cycles or popular trends.
I am not saying that this young man is that kind of activist or protestor. He seems to have a grasp on what he finds are worthy causes. I only hope that he, and those like him, continue to challenge their thinking and be open to other perspectives.
To that young man, keep it up. Be true to yourself, your principles and your opinions. Think critically from all angles. Stand your ground when you are challenged but be open to the views of others. We need your spirit. We need you interest. We need you. I applaud you, sir. Keep it up!