#openmindedness

[realtor-arielle]

The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply. - Stephen R. Covey

[ladymacabrebeth]

There's a struggle between staying open-minded and staying rooted to objectivity.

Lady Macabre Beth

[mbti-notes]

Hello, I have an intp brother. He has good intentions and tries to help ppl by offering to analyze their problems, but he is at low levels of ego development so he comes from a critical, judgmental and cynical place. I can tell he wants to connect with others (offers to help, kinda brags about his achievements to get admiration), but he sees things in a very calculating or manipulative way which puts ppl off. 1/2

[con’t: He's extremely smart, good at studies (top in sch) and making money and it made him very arrogant coz he judges people by how much they earn/IQ, like competence/IQ gives him the right to criticise others coz he's 'smarter' than them and figured out how to take advantage of the system/other ppl which other ppl are too dumb to do. Ppl find it hard to interact w him and I'm starting to feel the same. Is there smth I can do? My parents are v absent.]

There are a few necessary conditions that must be present before personal growth can be achieved:

A person must have the humility to admit to unhealthy behavior and/or moral failings, and thus recognize the need to learn from their mistakes. 

A person must be open-minded enough to believe that change is possible, such that they are able to receive new ideas about how to improve themselves and/or their life. 

A person must possess motivation to change, always carrying in their heart the intention to be a good person and live a good life.

At present, your brother doesn’t seem to meet these conditions, does he? He only sees problems out there in the world but not in himself? When you don’t see yourself as part of the problem, there is no reason to change. Unhealthy Fe, especially unhealthy Fe that results from slow/stunted moral development, predisposes a person to adopting crude moral beliefs that then inform a very unsophisticated moral worldview. This is apparent in the way that he conflates intelligence or wealth with a person’s moral worth. In other words, his idea of what constitutes a “good” person - the idea that he uses to make (Fe) moral judgments about people - is quite juvenile and has little to do with being morally good.

A predisposition to narrow-mindedness is often accompanied by confirmation bias, i.e., only noticing the “evidence” that confirms one’s worldview. Note that tertiary Si loop often makes confirmation bias worse. His worldview is indeed corrosive to relationships, but he may not be able to see it. Even if his relationships breakdown, he may place the blame on the other person and/or humanity at large for being flawed (which confirms his worldview), unable to recognize his own hand in causing the problem. 

You say that he has the intention to connect or help. If he tries to “connect” but instead gets more distant from people, then his approach is wrong. If he “helps” people and it doesn’t work, they end up worse off, or they even get harmed in the process, then his approach is certainly flawed. The impact of his behavior should be fairly obvious, so is he able to see it? If not, he may need someone to provide a clearer explanation as to what is going wrong, which is something you could do for him. Of course, if he won’t admit that his behavior was problematic, then this circles back to the problem of arrogance, aka, lack of humility.

Generally speaking, humility, open-mindedness, and motivation are nurtured through proper Ti-Ne development in INTPs. You can’t force someone to change when they don’t want to or don’t even see the need to. At most, you may encourage him to examine the factual impact of his behavior (Ti) and try to broaden his perspective (Ne). But the rest is up to him. 

[lifetutorsd]

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[lighthearted-science]

Fluid.  The word implies flow.  It implies seeping into every space where normally one would not go, the nooks and crannies one would miss if one held fast to a single point of view.  Can you release that one-pointed mind-set and vision and be fluid, instead?  You may discover new solutions, new vistas, new peace.  Fluid is a whole new way of being for the human being.  Wholeness is a blessing.  Single-minded is best when one flows in alignment with the Mind instead of making up a component mind.  Flow, why don’t you, and may genius be revealed.  You are so very loved.

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[colombia-chan]

From psych2go

So people can understand

[imperfect-vegetarian3]

There’s something unique about all of us that makes us different and we should learn to accept that uniqueness, rather than judging it.

[bdayallday]

Yesterday marked 9 mother fucking months.