#somethingpowerful

[heretofixyourheart]

“Because we’ve always wanted something more. Something big. Something powerful”

S.

[queerascat]

As another non binary, ace spectrum, queer person of colour you are a great inspiration to me, especially since I also have such an interest in Japan and also think about going back to work there. I was wondering how you are navigating living life as a non binary person in another country; I can imagine it being stressful, but I wonder if you might have any insight or advice for others in a similar situation/ could share some (coping) strategies. Thanks for being awesome!

hello and thank you for your extremely kind words. i am honored beyond words that you find me, of all people, to be an inspiration. <3

i wish i could share coping strategies and advice about life as a non-binary person in Japan, but i’m afraid that anything i saw at this point would be worthless. to be honest, i don’t think i’m coping very well at all right now… really i just keep pushing aside and not dealing with unpleasant/dysphoric situations, thoughts, feelings etc that come my way because i either don’t have the time to deal with it or i feel too stressed out by other things to deal with it. i really wouldn’t recommend handling (or rather, not handling) things like i have to anyone, so i’ll have to take a rain check on giving advice.

that said, i do fully intend to talk more about this subject in the future, so that’s something to look out for. i’m sure i’ll have a lot to say once i stop ignoring things.

advice and such aside, i will say this: before coming to Japan social dysphoria was the biggest issue for me and it still is. i still battle with the desire to cut my hair. i wish that people would stop referring to me by my given name… and i’m actually starting to be annoyed by it now whereas before i was indifferent. pronouns aren’t so bad in Japanese because they actually aren’t used anywhere near as frequently as they are in English. i still get grouped in with women, treated like a woman and am sometimes expected to wear female things. since it’s been cold i’ve been wearing layers or a coat which makes my chest less noticeable, but come spring/summer i intend to start binding. if i can get my chest as flat as i want it to be under fitted dress shirts, i wonder what kind of comments i might get from some of my students…

but again, all of this (and undoubtedly more) is stuff that i actively try to ignore and not deal with at the moment. :/ i hope that very soon i will be able to relax more and begin dealing with my feelings because ignoring them certainly isn’t helped anything.

anyway, i’ll keep you all posted. sorry for the totally unhelpful reply. :(

[thecorsetauthority]

Hi, I'm not sure if you'd be able to answer this or not but, I have mild scoliosis (awkward spine curvature) but I love corsets. I was wondering if wearing a corset might help with keeping my back straight or should I keep away/ not wear them very much? Thanks!

We are not medical professionals so we really can't responsibly answer this question. All we can do is tell you to talk to your doctor about the possible risks and/or benefits of wearing a corset in your situation. 

-Miss Miasma