it’s probably because one of the actors from tw is gonna be the new superman on cw supergirl?? dunno why they’re in the superbat tag tho lmao
jfc they’te the new shrlock fandom just invading other shows and movies , the tag is full of it , like aus and headacanons and people of course are complaining about it im so angry
(oh my god you asked for it and i half headcanoned half ficced here we go)
anger
lots of anger i think, and grief. tony doesnt process and handle trauma well canonically, and i mean. lets be realistic, steve wouldnt probably be holding tony in his arms as tony cries into steves bosoms,
tony would probs get up a facial recog running right away to hunt down bucky, while diving into hydra files to decrypt them to find out the truth in the documents because he is a man of facts above all else. he needs the concrete evidence. lots of steve checking in with tony to ask if hes found bucky yet, Lots and LOTS of steve reminding tony that “bucky is a victim” itll probs get to a point where tony snaps at steve
“do you even care that my parents were assassinated?”
and steve getting super offended like “of course i care, howard was my friend-”
“yea well Maria was my mom”
silence and then, “tony.........if i didnt care i wouldn’t have told you”
i feel tony would totally make a comment esp earlier on when The Emotions are still strong like “when i find bucky [some threat]” and steve getting SUPER BRISTLY and steve will say shit like “if ur gonna be like this i won’t let you find him” and tony will be like “oh You’re not gonna let me huh?” “i never should’ve told you in the first place” “oh u bet ur ass you did right to tell me, my parents arent your secret to keep rogers, your friend was not the only victim" lots of aggressive male posturing hopefully some avengers member step in and everyone chillaxes tf out.
and maybe we will actually be blessed and have steve and tony talking shit out later, tonys still pissed af but hes had time to compartmentalize, be able to stop being so fucking mad when he thinks about bucky killing his mom parents, steve to understand that bucky isnt the only victim of hydra tony lost his parents to hydra too, and bucky is important but so is tony, and he should offer an olive branch. they’re still tense, but they fucking talk it out, maybe tony even expresses regret
“why’d you tell me rogers, seriously why did you even bother. do you like seeing me suffer?”
“you said it earlier tony, it wasnt my secret to keep. at the beginning....i told myself i wanted to protect you, but the more i thought about it, i realized i would only be protecting myself from...all this. as much as it hurts, I think you deserve the truth”
“....god im getting hives from how honest you are seriously, this is why you’re so bad at poker”
“tony, you only win sometimes because you count cards”
“yea well, if u got the skills.........”
a not so strained silence this time, and then
“thanks for telling me cap.”
and months after, tonys resources make a difference, and they finally locate bucky, as steve, sam, nat, and vision gear up,
“tony, you’re not coming?”
“no cap, gonna sit this one out.”
(steve cant tell if its relief that tony’s not coming, or disappointment that tony still seems to be harboring reservation towards bucky)
“...are you okay? with me bringing him here?”
“no better place than here, we got my resources, my tech, and a house full of supers if he misbehaves”
“will you be here when we come back?”
“...i dont know”
and sure it’ll take time, but tony knows what its like to have blood on your hands, he knows guilt he understands it intimately, so he doesn’t stay away for too long he needs to see, to know
(the first time tony talks to bucky, his hands shaking, clenched in fists by his side fingernails digging into his palms his knuckles white, nat standing next to him a gentle hand on his arm, and Tony asks, “Do you even remember them?” and bucky, he looks up at tony his eyes full of guilt, at the child of the couple he murdered and left orphaned, and replies “i remember all of them” and tony walks away quickly, and hides himself away in a corner to cry and cry for his parents, for his mom for his dad who was still an asshole but still his dad, for bucky whom he still cant shake that sliver of rage but bucky’s also a victim and theres no one to blame no one to take his anger and loss out on and he cries for himself because he can)
and its still hard, tony and bucky still avoid each other (slightly harder when tony goes “on a break” with pepper and moves into the compound after rhodey’s insistent nagging)
steve (judging by how he’s like in CACW) would devote himself to bucky and tony would hide away in his workshop while rhodey and nat (and even vision on some memorable occasion) tries to coax tony out more (tony still runs away whenever bucky comes around, and when steve tries to talk about it to tony, maybe he should spend some time with bucky and give him a chance, tony walks away)
if/when zemo enacts his plans, and by some luck, just steve bucky and tony end up in sibera, tony will finally see how they died, hear his parents last words, and close his eyes for just a moment to swallow the uncontrollable rage, before launching his full arsenal of missiles and unibeam at the chamber zemo’s locked himself in and gouging a hole thru the wall.
“I told you i could beat UR-100s”
tony grabs zemo trying to scurry away, punches zemo in the face with the full strength of his armor, grabs him by the neck and hisses at him through the faceplate“i already knew you fucking asshole”
steve has to step in before things escalate, and tony walks out, flies away leaving steve and bucky to take care of zemo.
and it’ll be hard, but tony finally knows the truth now. some days, a scent, a sound, a stupid lil thing will trigger memories of his mom and he has to tamp down on the irrational anger towards barnes bubbling up inside him, but other days its ok, he knows barnes is struggling years of torture and brainwashing, and tony works on BARF to deprogram the WS trigger words out of buckys brain
(after months of intensive work and sessions, the day comes when nat reads out the string of russian and bucky isnt affected by it. he cries and steve cries and tony walks out as fast he can because his heart is beating, he’s freed the man from the very concrete mental shackles that made him the winter soldier and there is no one to blame anymore. half of him feels like he’s betrayed his mom for letting the killer go for good this time and he wants to scream, the other half tries to reason away these emotions god tony you selfish bastard barnes suffered decades of brainwashing cant you stop thinking about yourself for one second, but well, tony never claimed he was a good man. that title goes to captain america doesnt it)
it’ll take time, tony and bucky and steve have a ton of trauma and PTSD and MI and just baggage in general to work out, but I’m sure that steve telling tony earlier would’ve only done good overall, and one day, tony and bucky, if they’d been given the chance, would become pretty good friends.