this is for people who can relate, but does it bother you when others say stuff to you, like "you shouldn't be hard on yourself" "Stop placing so much expectations on yourself!"?
It doesn't work that way. It doesn't "stop." yeah, if it just stopped when I dropped it believe me it would have gone away by now.
And we work on it. But you know what's worse? These people giving shit advice don't even show that they care. They are emotionally distant from you and yet act like your friend. They don't provide reasons for you to trust them, or even see them as worthy of listening to. They come to the aid of other people and yet ignore you. When they finally do see your issues, that's when they give "oh you're awesome I like you don't have so high of an expectation UwU"
They never personally ask you if you are doing okay. they ask in public. Dude maybe I don't want to say how I feel when other people can listen/read what I say.
idk I'm so tired of the very people who make me feel like I'm not enough thinking they have ANY right to just give me horrible advice.
EDIT: also if you don't actually care don't bother talking to me or other people about whether we are fine or not. Go take your fake ass kindness somewhere else. Only seek us out when you are genuine.
