#speaking up

[makingsenseofwhathappened]

How can I get them to stop the harassment?

[classycookiexo]

[daughteramazinggrace]

does any other trans person have a problem with using 'girl' and 'bro' as gender neutral terms ? i feel like it is so demeaning as a trans girl to be called 'bro', and when i speak up, they tell me they meant nothing by it

i might be overreacting, but pls pls pls if you know someone is trans, don't use 'gender neutral terms' to describe someone if the term you are using is made for the sex they were born as

[brownwomanisland]

I want to know who else is out there has an issue with speaking up?

When I was 12, I told a friend who I knew would tell my parents that my brother was molesting me. When we finally met, I realized that they spoke to him first and he was their golden child and whatever he said, I echoed because I was terrified. My mother is still a boy mom and my dad is a fucking loser.

When I was 14, I told a teacher. They told my mom. My mom told her friend who decided to ask me, what i didn't realize at the time, leading questions about me being gay (open secret). He decided that my lesbian experience was what I was talking about and not the escalating molestation from my brother.

My father blamed me for who I told, said it was my crush on the teacher. My mother called me a liar for months. Would shout at me in the hallway at home. Would wake me up at night to talk to me about myself, threatening to beat me. That went on for months until I stayed with my uncle briefly. It didn't improve when I came back home. Nobody did anything to protect me. They ripped up my police report. Stopped my psychologist visits. Pressured me to talk to my brother.

I was already cutting myself to deal with the fact that this was happening and nobody took my anger at my brother seriously. This boy used me as his own personal sex toy for years and ... started again or tried to start again when I was home from university. I don't know. Everybody I'm blood related to is a fucking poison in this world. Who's not a menace is a fucking coward.

There's so much to say and even though none of you know me, I still feel terrified that speaking up in anyway will ruin my life. I always wrote in my journal. I found out after my mother put me out that she went through it, deemed it all lies. I only started back writing comfortably in 2021 ish.

I wish I lived a different life almost everyday because I have to live every year seeing all my dreams be deferred. Sometimes I wish I did kill myself so I wouldn't have to deal with knowing that what I dream of may never come.

So yeah I panicked and deleted that other post because one of you assholes said I let my father treat me that way. But also, it is so so so so difficult to speak up. I live alone now and I have to practice EVERYTHING with EVERYONE so that I make sure I am safe. I work very hard to make sure every step I take will hopefully bring me closer to the life I deserve.

Don't let being online and being angry make you treat your sisters like trash. We're all fucking going through it. Our traumas probably look like intersecting venn diagrams.

[neblina-system]

Me, scrolling through Tumblr: (reads a random post mentioning the name Nick)

Faint voice in the back of my head: Hey!

Me: ❓

[casadenovas]

for my gemini placements || mars is in your sign and it's time

sun, moon, rising, mars. this one is for you.

mars entered gemini on june 28th and if you have been feeling a shift in your energy, a sharpness, a restlessness, a sense that something in you is done being quiet, that is not a coincidence. mars is the planet of action, drive, and how you move through the world. and right now it is moving through your sign. your energy. your territory.

this is personal.

gemini placements have spent a long time being misunderstood. written off as scattered, inconsistent, too much, not serious enough. and somewhere along the way a lot of you learned to soften your edges to make other people more comfortable. to hold back the thing you actually wanted to say. to second guess the move you already knew you needed to make.

mars in gemini through august 11th is the end of that era.

this is the transit where your words get sharp and your mind gets fast and you stop shrinking to fit into spaces that were never built for you. the things you have been sitting on, the conversations you have been avoiding, the version of yourself you have been holding back, she is coming forward now. not aggressively. not recklessly. but clearly. and without apology.

the shadow here is worth naming because you know it well. gemini energy can scatter. you can start ten things, say yes to everything, and exhaust yourself before you ever land on the one thing that actually matters. mars moving through your sign is going to make that pull stronger. so be intentional with where you direct this energy. not every battle is yours. not every conversation needs your sharpest words. pick what matters and go all in there.

with mercury stationing retrograde in cancer the day after mars enters your sign, there is also an invitation to revisit. to go back over what you have been feeling and what you have left unsaid. use the retrograde to get clear internally first. the words will land better when they come from a grounded place rather than a reactive one.

this summer is yours if you want it. and i think you already know you do.

if you want to see exactly how mars moving through gemini is activating your personal chart, readings are open at casa de novas.

[bluefeatheredcorvus]

Recently a couple of the autistic kids I work with have inspired me with openly, unapologetically owning it.

Like one kid saying “if I don’t make eye contact it’s because I find that hard and it’s easier to concentrate on what you’re saying if I’m not looking at you.”

And another one asking for clarification of an ambiguous statement to check understanding instead of just hoping for the best.

And one saying “I’m going to stim now, this conversation is hard”

I have so much respect for them for being able to voice those things! It’s inspired me to try harder to do that instead of masking until I meltdown because I’m so scared of how people will react.