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How can I 'think before I speak' if I have ADHD verbal impulsivity issues? Like, is there a how-to or something I can practice? Because no matter how hard I try just not talking doesn't work and I only remember I'm supposed to wait a few seconds before I reply after I'm already talking....
That’s a great question and one I’m not sure how to answer. I still have trouble with this sometimes.
Followers, do you have any ideas?
-J
Is it An ADHD thing to sometimes blurt things out that you're not supposed to say? I sometimes end up telling people things they sort of already know while I'm supposed to deny it.
Yup. I call it a broken filter. Really it’s faulty – sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. It’s an impulsive symptom.
-J
I'm a teenage girl and I have ADHD. I can be very impulsive when I'm not on my meds (FocalinXR) and I speak before I think. Causing me to blurt out things I shouldn't say bc ppl find those things offensive or mean even if I don't mean it that way. It's just a case of my ADHD brain telling me to talk before I even realize what I'm saying. I never know what to say after these situations tho. I just get really flustered and apologetic but ppl are still upset at me. Any advice on what I could say?
That happens to me too!
When it happens, honestly the best thing to do is apologize and be done. You can’t control people’s feelings; apologizing doesn’t make it go away or anything.
“I’m so sorry I said that, I have a poor filter. I’m working on it but sometimes it just happens.”
-J
I work in a small office and tend to chatter. A lot. And I can tell when my coworkers are bored or uncomfortable when I don't stop talking, but I just have such a hard time NOT vocalizing every thought I have! I just started taking meds again, and my dosage is slowly being increased which I can feel helping a little. Do you have any tips or recommendations on how to manage this, besides increasing my meds more?
Medication is the only thing that keeps me from saying ridiculous (often inappropriate) things when I’m with people around whom I feel relaxed. Which means that I have no suggestions. Hopefully someone else will have some ideas!
-J
Sometimes my mouth just goes without consulting my brain first and I say things that I would rather have not said out loud. Not mean things, just things I probably should have kept to myself. I’m a fool.
I made a stupid & rude joke yesterday before the fast started. Someone asked me if there were a lot Jews at my high school & I jokingly said I was the most Jewish student at my school (there were only a couple of Jewish students at my school & none of them cared too much about it) :/. That was so wrong of me & I feel terrible. I should have said most observant or religious Jew & I realized it almost immediately. There's no such thing as a Jew being more or less Jewish as other Jews. I hope the girls I said it to don't think I'm an awful person & doesn't deserve to become a Jew. I'll need to apologize for my stupid comment on Shabbat since they both usually attend. 😞 I feel so bad.
Do you ever have trouble controlling what you say? Usually it's not that big a deal, but a lot of times I will be consciously thinking this is really personal and I don't want to talk about it, but the second someone interacts with me I blurt it out. Any tips on how to control my mouth?
This happens because of that lack of filter. You might want to try redirecting your thoughts when you realize “hey, this is a thing I don’t want to talk about right now.” Continue that thought to “Since I don’t want to talk about that I’m going to think about something else, like the weather. Gee, it’s sunny out today.” Then when someone talks to you, you’ll have the weather (or whatever) on your mind, and you’ll blurt that out instead.
-J
Followers, do you have any suggestions?
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