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[amity-candylust]

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Migu

[amity-candylust]

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If you’re anti good faith, please actually go educate yourself about intersex ppl before you decide to go “erm actually men cant be lesbians”.

Being anti good faith is INHERENTLY INTERSEXIST. First off, you’re policing ppls identities and second, every single argument I hear from yall can EASILY be dismissed INSTANTLY when intersex ppl like us are brought up.

“Oh cis men shouldn’t be lesbians” being cis doesn’t make you immune to being intersex. Heck it doesn’t even guarantee someone having a PENIS, because doctors dont have to assign you intersex at birth and they likely WONT. You can very well be a cis man with a vagina because for the MILLIONTH FUCKING TIME, GENDER =/= BIOLOGICAL SEX.

“Cis men take everything” if you’re talking about the stereotypical cis perisex men, most do not even identify as lesbian or even queer in any way. You’re just ignoring intersex people and other queer ppl. This argument literally is lacking basis in anything. Why would a generally privileged group identify as queer when that leads to persecution by the state regardless of what you identify as? Like do you actually hear yourself rn??? You are making it sound like people choose to be queer by implying that men are choosing to be lesbians. Like jfc i thought we learned by now that being queer isnt a CHOICE.

“You can’t be cis and trans at the same time” I hope your socks are uncomfortably wet for life and I hope you step on legos 24/7. You have ZERO RIGHT to police US about gender. We’re already forced to conform to gender norms and we also literally get violated by institutions and systems and people around us. Our bodies are often permanently altered without our consent, we are often forced to undergo treatment that we don’t want like birth control. We do not need more uneducated bullshit from you.

Nearly every single stupid argument surrounding gender and sexual orientation (ESPECIALLY IN TERMS TO YOU GUYS, THE ANTI GOOD FAITH PPL), instantly falls apart the second you start to actually consider intersex voices and experiences. Yknow what that says? That yall don’t fucking care about intersex people. And to that I say:

Fuck you.

[amity-candylust]

aw shit i cant interact with the donuts /silly

(this is meant to be a joke)

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Calling all DID/OSDD Systems!

We’re collaborating with @/ireneishealing on Instagram on an initiative on bridging the gap between the online system community and the world of clinical medicine in regard to mental health and psychiatry.

There is a large gap between these two groups especially when it comes to community terminology. Irene talks about this in depth more in their call to action reel, especially regarding specific terminology many online systems use such as “medically recognized” that doctors misinterpret as being the same as being professionally diagnosed. They argue that this gap is what causes some professionals to misunderstand and minimize lived experiences, which then results in the push for the iatrogenic model for DID instead of the traumagenic model that has been the norm for a while now with research backing it up better than the iatrogenic model. As a result, online DID spaces are taken less seriously, professionals misunderstand lived experiences, and the stigma increases, making it harder for folks to seek care.

Irene is looking for systems (self diagnosed, professionally diagnosed, medically recognized, etc), allies of systems, and folks who spread awareness about DID to help educate folks outside of online DID communities on community terminology across multiple platforms. We’ve volunteered to help them out by spreading this initiative to Tumblr since we are active here and talk about DID quite often.

If you have any questions, you can message Irene on Instagram or email them regarding the initiative. We will link their reel on this post for everyone to look into if it’s something that might pique your interest. If you are unable to message Irene yourself for any reason, we can relay your questions to Irene for you if needed!

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We really hope we can get more collaborators for this initiative. Irene also has a discord server in their linked on their instagram page.

[amity-candylust]

Its been ages before I have had to speak up about someone elses harmful actions since that system hottake blog.

But I am actually done just sitting around doing nothing when anti endos like this person are encouraging bullying towards endogenic systems

This doesn’t make me any less anti endo, nor does it mean that we support endogenic systems, in fact, we personally don’t believe that it’s even possible to be endogenic and that most of them are either:

- misguided by those who prey on minors (like sophie),

- have DID but don’t remember their trauma,

- are confusing their symptoms for DID when they probably have a different disorder,

- are experiencing something that no one is able to give a proper name to so they make it sound like a CDD when it’s clearly not,

- or are just straight up insane (ahem, like sophie)

You do not, under any circumstances, bully people, even if they have hurt you or you really really hate them to the core. “Oh but endos are evil, they’re ableist scums of the earth and they constantly hurt us and shit-” YOU DONT STOOP TO THEIR LEVEL.

Wanna know why they absolutely despise us? This is why

When you give radical anti endos a platform to speak, a platform to target endos who are most likely just trying to exist, you get people bullying them. You get people who are attacking the other community and harassing them. When you enable radical anti endos a platform to speak, you are hurting both communities

Anti endos have been fighting for ages to get basic respect from the other side and to just be left alone and not have people roleplay or romanticize the disorder, but radicals literally undo all the hard work by giving pro endos a reason to bully and harass back and invalidate all of us because of a select few, which is also exactly how we treat them when we are being attacked by people like sophieinwonderland or other radical pro endos

I could probably guarantee you that the majority of the system community just wants this useless fighting to stop and for all the bullying, harassment, and ableism to stop. I can guarantee you that most people on BOTH sides are not fully one or the other, and that we fall closer to the middle and have nuanced stances on certain topics. We are not robots, we have complex opinions, and syscourse is no exception.

If you don’t want the other side to interact with you then block them and set your boundaries. Filter out tags you don’t want to see, block people like this person who you know are toxic and hurt people regardless of what their stances are. You are responsible for how you want to interact and contribute to the community. It is your responsibility to be the better person.

And if you see problems within your own community, SPEAK UP ABOUT IT. When you stay silent knowing that you have seen the problems that exist within the community, you are complicit in the bullying and harassment. You are letting radicals dictate the reputation of your community. This goes for both anti and pro endos. Stop staying silent, otherwise nothing will change.

I know this system community can do better. I have seen the good from both sides. We really should stop fighting and actually respect each other and understand that our experiences are different from one another and it doesn’t automatically make their experiences invalid just because they don’t match yours. Who knows, if we can actually get along we would be a lot more empathetic towards each other and maybe, JUST MAYBE, we could stop the actually ableist fuckers and the bullies who are ruining it for everyone. We could actually work together and take down harmful spaces like r/syscringe and r/fakedisordercringe, these harm BOTH COMMUNITIES and are places that ENABLE BULLYING AND FAKECLAIMING.

Nothing gets done when people stay silent, when people stay divided, and when you ignore the problems in your own community that the opposition has constantly been highlighting on for ages. Learn what makes someone radical in their beliefs, learn the difference between what is actually wrong versus what is just an opinion that conflicts with your own beliefs because those two are NOT the same. Learn to stay away from toxic spaces and warn others of these places, like the K9 Cave server on discord or r/syscringe on reddit. Educate yourself, not just on CDDs and how they actually work but also on endogenic experiences and how they affect people who genuinely believe that they are endogenic. You may not personally believe in them, but if you stay educated on these topics then it benefits both communities and you could actually help someone who may have something misunderstood or is unknowingly spreading misinformation about it. You really can’t expect pro endos and endos to do their research about CDDs but then also not listen to their experiences and their ideas on the complexities of plurality. You don’t have to agree with it, but if you refuse to even listen to them then its pretty hypocritical to ask them to listen to you.

I don’t have to accept their experiences as pure fact or scientifically proven, but I can respect it and be empathetic instead of bullying them and understand that in reality, we don’t know everything. I shouldn’t have to risk “looking like a pro endo” or seem like I am siding with them when I am very much anti endo to get this point across:

That bullying someone for having completely different opinions, views, and experiences is wrong, and you cannot justify it.

I’m not here to say that “oh endos are valid” or “oh endos are invalid” that is not my point. My point is that even if you don’t share the same views, opinions and experiences with them, you have no right to bully them.

There is a fuckton that we don’t know. This world is already against all of us in general. The best we can do is work together and have basic respect for each other. Just, basic respect, you don’t even need to interact with the other side, just respect each others boundaries.

Please reblog and share this, both anti and pro endos. And please don’t go harassing this person, don’t give them a reason to target you. This post is incredibly important for both communities especially since the rise of bullying from BOTH sides has caused extreme turmoil for those who end up getting caught in the crossfire.

[amity-candylust]

Pomni and Jax are ABSOLUTELY the type of people who would literally do EVERYTHING a typical romantic couple would do (even marriage), and still go “yea we’re just buds and we just be chillin every now and then”

moreso jax, pomni would more likely take the relationship more seriously but also play along with Jax’s antic just to keep him happy LMAO

i love these two sm