Re: difficulty with Ashton.
I love Tal and the characters we get and I love Ash, but I think some of us are struggling with that conversation with Ash and Laudna because it ticks the box of “mansplaining” loneliness and trauma to a woman who was traumatized and forcibly alone for longer in her life than she has been with others.
Like you, I suspect that Tal is playing a longer game here to make Ash realize that they don’t have a monopoly on trauma. Nor does FCG (who I assume is the other person they meant in the convo). That said, I think you’re right on the mark in your comments and I just wanted to say yes and for those of us really struggling with that conversation.
agreed! i think it was definitely intentional on tal's part and i'm p curious to see how the way that conversation played out will come back around, because it could've very easily escalated into an argument or some meaner, sharper thing, but laudna just was not biting. i wonder if that's what ashton wanted or if it was the total opposite, if it surprised them or not
which btw, to make it about my best girl for a bit, speaks a lot to her patience and depth of empathy (and maybe even her age). ashton said a lot of things that were misguided at best and cruel at worst, and it's Important that she took those things, sat with them, and gave him honest and genuine responses about her pain while still firmly indicating that he isn't the only one with this kind/level of baggage. instead of getting down on herself or getting mad at ashton, she turned it into an opportunity to say that opening herself up to kindness and care was one of the best decisions she ever made. she saw straight through to the root of all the things they said, and she offered a suggestion that might alleviate their negative feelings, from her own personal experience, without holding any of that conversation against him. is that what ashton wanted, or did they want to be yelled at and demoralized? not sure! but i'm willing to bet it was more forgiveness and understanding than they bargained for so it'll be interesting to see where that goes later












