#stolas obviously

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idk i feel like if i grew up experiencing extreme childhood neglect and transitioned directly into an abusive forced marriage i would probably be extremely repressed and naive and (imp)ulsive also. maybe that’s just me tho.

[amalthea-13]

What Made Me Defend Stolas so Staunchly?

Introduction

After several days discussing Octavia and Stella, I am beyond happy to be back to my job on Stolas Defense!

Hello all, it is I, Amalthea, The Ultimate Stolas Kinnie and Stan! Today I thought it'd be interesting to talk about why I defend Stolas so staunchly.

For many who may not know me, I used to actually be in the middle when it came to the issues within Stolitz. I used to defend both Stolas and Blitz because in my head they were both at fault for a lot (I still believe this partly).

I never really doubted any of this purely because it made sense. I mean they're both in the relationship and therefore they both are bound to make mistakes.

However, the fundamental moment that changed my mind was Mastermind.

To many this may be weird bc 99.9% of the fandom has a neutral take on this. Everyone else is usually defensive of Blitz due to his position in society and usually we all agree to somewhat be fair to Stolas purely by giving him only partial blame.

I tried so hard to not get frustrated with Blitz. I really do try to give him so much empathy and love because I love that lil guy. That's my boy right there. . . however my boy was PISSING ME OFF.

Let's get into reasoning because despite The Blitz Post , he is still my third favorite in the entire series. (Sorry Blitz, Vassago ties with Stolas for number 1 and I think Yogirt took second place.) The Timeline

Recently, I rewatched the videos I made in response to Mastermind on my Tiktok. The very first initial reaction I had was a video I released November 29th, the day which Mastermind released and its a singular image of Stolas with the text:

"The fact Blitz cannot humanize Stolas ever until he has lost absolutely everything pisses me off. Stolas isn't perfect but the one time he does treat him well and like a person is when he's at his lowest just like Blitz."

A very . . . emotionally charged response to a character I also kin and was a staunch defender of before this point. I mean I loved Blitz, but what happened in Mastermind, that sudden tonal shift in their relationship sent me over the edge.

The next slide goes into further detail of my grievances;

"Stolas gave up everything and only NOW he is being treated with some semblance of kindness. It took him giving up his actual life for Blitz to actually see him as a person and not some "ditzy blueblood" he made up in his head".

These sentiments are echoed in The Blitz Post when it was made in February and I still stand by the context of the Blitz post to this day. November 30th I worked on an edit of Stolas to a Last Unicorn audio due to him being stripped of his magic, this was an emotional thing I couldn't get over, also echoed in my Stolas Headcanons post where someone asked me about his magic.

The same day I made a speedpaint redrawing Stolas and started just going off about my frustrations that I don't want to believe Blitz is a bad person or a semblance of a "bad guy", but the fact he could only humanize Stolas in that moment had "sickened me". I also mentioned my concerns for Octavia due to the fact I had been that "scared little girl" at some point in my life. I also note that;

"Truly, it hurt to watch Stolas throw himself in harms way, knowing Blitz would never give half of that to Stolas. He'd never sacrifice for Stolas like that."

All very... emotional responses and I can say this was the moment I fundamentally latched onto Stolas much tighter than I did previously. December 1st and 12th I made videos or slideshows defending Stolas regarding the punishment he got and that baby talking at Blitz or calling him "impish little plaything" isn't crime enough to justify what happened to him.

The 19th making another post defending Stolas due to his words being miscontextualized which inspired the Stolas, Miscontextualing his Words, and Boundaries post. The 22nd I documented my feelings about Via rejecting Stolas and that I couldn't agree with her at all and that echoed its way into The Octavia Dilemma. Christmas day at like 3am I made a post defending Stolas against people accusing him of being "fake" for using medication to handle his depression. Then January 1st was when I voiced I believed Blitz was the most at fault during the Full Moon argument.

Then January 30th I make a video detailing why I believe Blitz was at fault. I go into explicit detail outlining why Blitz was wrong, how he was wrong, and this was when I came up with the concept for the projection argument (Seen in First Ask: Has Stolas Truly Grown? Section 2) I utilize when talking about the Full Moon argument. I go to the point of saying Blitz isn't emotionally mature enough to be with Stolas. (Daaammnnnn past me, let the guy stand back up!!!)

How is it from November 29th-January30th my view changed so much? As I said I used to be the type of person that blamed both sides. What happened?

The Fundamental Moment My View Changed

Tonal Shift

Usually when I believe in something I don't let it go. If I believe in something with my entire heart it will take something huge happening to change my perspective.

However, during Mastermind it felt almost... gross and sickening to watch Blitz fawn over and help Stolas while simultaneously enjoying the tender moments we had waited so long for.

I felt so- guilty. Like I was watching my best friend get back with a man I knew was bad for them.

It felt hard to enjoy the positivity as I knew what impending doom was coming. I mean I felt awful for enjoying my comfort ship while Stolas lost everything.

The tonal shift in Mastermind changed a lot and reframed so many episodes as you see such a radical shift in the span of a month or two. As much as I appreciated Blitz's efforts, in my mind it was all "too little, too late". It was everything I wanted from the series but too late.

So that guilt and anger manifested into a several month long rant and frustration of me bordering on turning into a Blitz Anti. Hell, I designed an OC just to spite Blitz and ship Stolas with my OC. (Theyre the best couple btw I love them sm their ship name is Hot Messes.) However, what made me fall right back in love with Blitz was that damn kind heart and the fact he can make Stolas laugh. As angry as I remain to be and as staunchly I stay defending Stolas, I still love Blitz, but again Mastermind provided a lot of reframing of past episodes I could not get over. It was like the floodgates opened and I couldn't close them.

Stolas Antis and Blitz Dickriders

I also want to acknowledge that it was Stolas Antis specifically that made me start despising Blitz as a character.

While I no longer feel this way and have separated the Antis from our sweet Lizard King. At the time I was angry that people were coming down hard as hell on Stolas for things they gave passes to Blitz for.

I've noted this in many posts, but I call it the "trauma pass" and for some reason Blitz is the ONLY character in all of Helluva Boss who has this card. My anger brewed from there, watching Stolas be beat down for minor offenses and Blitz getting the trauma pass purely because people like him, but if Stolas did the same thing he'd be burnt at the stake.

Now besides the fact I am an October Libra with a strong sense of justice, I'm also an ADHD bitch who can argue for 5 days on end over the same thing and not stop defending my argument. I can get physically ill or tired but I am as stubborn as a damn mule.

Therefore further interactions with Blitz antis and defenders sent me into what I now call the "Stolas Defense". Pretty much a litany of arguments, pieces of evidence, and information that I utilize to make a strong barrier that no Blitz Defender can get past.

While I didn't get much interaction on my Tiktok account, those videos are what built this lovely blog and is the reason my defense remains so strong. Purely based on memory recall those videos fundamentally shifted how I see Blitz.

They also are why my defense remains the way it is. Sure, I repeat the same points over and over, but there is a purpose and reasoning to how the Stolas Defense functions. It's about appealing to every area of argument along with substantiative evidence to make a strong ass defense.

Despite Blitz Antis leaving me alone and now finding solace in my Stolas Kinnie Family. I still think about how it took one episode for me to change my entire perspective on ONE character.

Mastermind As an Episode

Everything in Mastermind was done so well. it was meant to make you question and think. A complex narrative that truly left the fandom in shambles after it's release.

However, why was it this narrative that changed my mind? As an audience, many people believed this episode was necessary for Stolitz to thrive as a couple.

At that time I actually told someone I felt it was "unnecessary" for Stolas to give up everything for Blitz. (I was reaaalllyyyyy angry ya'll. Blitz hun I am soooooo sorry)

Mastermind as an episode had the fandom splitting off into sides and caused very real division which from a writer standpoint is beyond impressive.

The episode took me, a neutral viewer, and turned me into a staunch Stolas Defender. Talk about phenomenal writing.

Conclusion

Despite this episode rehashing many of my older points, I hope you all get a better view from this post as to why I am the way I am. I ain't saying it'll make you all agree with me or anything, but this is the direct timeline of all my thoughts and how it all went down since November 30th.

Toodles! Amalthea Out!

[amalthea-13]

What is one off your guilty pleasure headcanons on stolas

Mine is hime being intersex and not knowing it

Guilty Pleasure Headcanons?

Well this is definitely a fun question!!! I think mines may pale in comparison to many other people's but here are some of my Stolas headcanons!

Editing Note: HELP YOU ONLY ASKED FOR 1 HEADCANON AND I GAVE YOU AN ENTIRE ESSAY IM SO SORRY LMAO

Kind Reminder that I am an Adult and this is an 18+ Blog. Minors DNI!!!

Stolas Headcanons:

Stolas is the possessive type in the most like- submissive and adorable way possible. He doesn't display it in public, but believe me that man will absolutely let you know when he is frustrated you're giving someone else attention.

He absolutely loves giving his partner gifts and while he is wealthy, it is usually hand made gifts or very special dates. He isn't the materialistic type.

I headcanon him as they/he and nonbinary with a very fluid type of presentation. Sexuality wise he is a gay man (fuckin obvi), but I do think he'd be interested in gender non conforming individuals and trans folks purely because they understand how he feels internally when he talks about feeling "othered" in society.

Genuinely think he likes shorter people. Purely because it's easier for snuggles and hugs.

His favorite nickname from my OC/Incu-sona for Helluva Boss is "bluebird". It's the first nickname he gets after him and Blitz break up in their story and means a lot to him.

Absolute lover of kisses, doesn't matter the kind, but absolutely adores them. Very tender type.

Despite not understanding Octavia he thoroughly enjoys her music taste and does like rock and metal in general. I think Stolas would also pick it up from just being around Blitz or Loona.

Marriage is something he absolutely dreams about in the cheesiest most wholesome of ways.

When it comes to intimacy while he does prefer being on the bottom, he absolutely is a soft and encouraging top who takes his time, but makes sure you're pleased. He is consistently watching your body language for any sense of distress to make sure you're not overwhelmed.

He is a sadist and masochist, but those aren't things that are required for him to get off. I feel like he is fine with whatever his partner is into as long as it's interesting and not purely missionary.

Absolutely has a blood kink and does not mind being bit.

I do think him and Vassago have been intimate in the past and I think could have similar tastes in men.

I think if he's with someone they have to be involved in the arts of some kind. (For example Blitz being a performer/entertainer, and my OC/Incu-sona being a writer and former acrobat.)

He's attracted to intellect, but it's not required for him to enjoy a person's company.

Uses his magic in the bedroom, often, like a lot. . . a lot a lot.

He's definitely a lover of thick thighs, but also has a thing for pretty hands. Not in a purely sexual way, but in a sense that he can appreciate them anatomically for their beauty.

Despite being inexperienced sexually, he has the stamina of a fucking bunny that wants to breed.

Moving on, definitely wants to have more kids, but literally cannot due to the anatomical makeup of the group he is attracted to, but still is adamant about it in the bedroom.

Angel Dust is his best friend besides Vassago. Met him at a party once and the two clicked.

Stolas likes a partner who is a swtich that does have a more submissive side. He isn't "controlling", but having a partner who actually listens to him is sexy in it's own right.

Takes baths with his partner constantly. He loves the feeling of pampering his partner and making them feel cared for.

If you're someone with mental illness or any type of disorders and etc, he is more than the willing type to accommodate and make you feel better. He will sit and watch cheesy films or snuggle all day to make you feel better.

Despite loving soap operas and reality TV, he also enjoys animated shows.

He is a literary nut and can quote Shakespeare with ease.

Loves hand holding.

Enjoys doing his partner's makeup.

Loves curly hair because of how unique it is. Understands he can't just run his hand through them, but will sit and be enamored by how the hair coils and is so intricate, even noting your head can have more than one curl pattern and just being enamored. Definitely asks if he can help maintain your hair or style it and is willing to learn more about it.

Writes you poetry all the time and often leaves love notes in your things.

Despite being an older gentleman, Stolas can enjoy gaming, but prefers things like cozy games like farming sims or visual novels, especially ones with puzzles. Consider things like Animal Crossing or Mad Father.

His favorite book genre is romance, but I think enjoys a good cozy mystery or fantasy novel once in a while.

Is a literary snob and can be very picky about what he reads.

He will have you cosplay as the Phantom from Phantom of The Opera in bed at least once.

He is socially awkward as all hell, especially at clubs. He doesn't entirely know how to get people interested in him.

Is an introvert and homebody, but if you're an outgoing person he will match your energy.

When he gets aggravated the easiest way to calm him down is just say ". . . I'm sorry but when you yell at me that's hot as fuck." He cannot help but laugh and will turn away from you, trying to tell you he's not laughing. Usually ends with you both giggling.

I think that's all of the things I can think of lol. These are all my personal headcanons, but no, I do not feel guilty about any of them.

Toodles! Amalthea Out!

[amalthea-13]

"Amalthea are you good?"

No, kinda sick of people romanticizing "domestic Stolitz" but every screenshot is just Stolas casually disassociating and mourning the loss of his relationship with his daughter despite knowing he did the right thing. Every screenshot being Stolas holding onto that guilt and not being able to do anything but grieve.