#stop ageism

[bobcatblahs]

All of these lines across my face…

Tell you the story of who I am…

[ificouldhelpyouforget]

Hi! I just dropped to say thank you on the comment you left on that fic writer complaining about having "old people" reading their fics. I'm 35 and it's already difficult to be an active fan within kpop because everyone thinks you're old, and now to tell me I could be Felix's mother (not even close) so I shouldn't read smut about him it's just so... Invalidating. He's an adult, he's in his 20's, I've seen people date with bigger age gaps (usually the man being older), and reading is just a fantasy??? It's a lot, for someone to tell me who and what I can and can't like? Awful. Sorry I end up venting, but I really wanted you to know I appreciate the comment because you really explained the point there perfectly.

I hope you had a great start of the year ❤️

Hello and happy new year! I first want to say thank you this message whoever you are anon. It encourages me to know that others feel the same as me. I'm sure even as anon, it wasn't easy to send this message especially when the fic writer is active on here (although blocked by me). And you're welcome. I was so bothered by it that I couldn't let it go without saying something. Ageism has never been an issue in fanfiction when I was growing up and I sure as hell am not going to let it happen now.

I'm gonna put a read more after this and dive into your message that I hope you see. 💜

I've been discussing this issue with fellow fanfic writers and readers and we're all on the same page thinking this situation is silly. One, although it is real person fiction, the Felix in the story is a character. He is not the exact embodiment of Felix of SKZ. The reaction of said fic writer gives the impression that they believe the Felix in their story is a perfect and exact replica of him. Which is impossible considering none of us know h personally or that intimately.

Two, he is 22 fucking (pardon) years old. He is a legal adult. I type up marriages at my work and I've seen people with 30+ age gaps get married. And shockingly, married couples often have sex. It might be odd for most of us, but it's not wrong.

Three (this topic really gets me ranting), if there is an issue with Felix being sexualized by an older reader (who really isn't that old), there should be an issue with him being sexualized in the first place. He can see anything written about him. It's on a public forum. The funny thing about public forums is anyone can read anything. Minors, adults, anyone.

Four, will the fic writer take down their fics once they hit 35+? The Felix in their story is his current age of 22, yes? So, that would make them too old to read that fic if they plan to live by that rule. Also, when they get older, will they decide to read smut between people their age? Or is it not sexier to read about younger adults getting in on when you still remember what that part of life was like? Being that it's fiction, it's not creepy or perverted to read it. Even in real person fiction because it's as you said: fantasy.

I want you to know that it is valid for you to feel that way about someone saying a certain age can't read smut about a 22 year old despite it being fiction and fantasy. Most people our age can define the line between reality and fiction. We know that Felix in a smut fic (or any fic) is not Felix irl.

To the reader who was condemned for reading that Felix smut, I'm sorry if the situation has made you feel shunned from a hobby you've probably held for a long time as a way to escape. Fanfiction has always been an open community since even before I started reading it and there's been an unfortunate shift that is killing off readership and I hate that it's happening. I'm sure you understand that the Felix in fics is a character and not the real person (boy that'd be pretty awkward 😅). It's not your fault that a writer can't see that it's just fantasy that you were enjoying. If you haven't blocked them, I would encourage it. They don't want you to read their stuff anyway so 🤷🏻‍♀️.

To all older readers/writers 35+, know that my blog is a safe space for you. You can share your rants and sadness and any other emotions you have about this strange trend in fanfiction. Reading smut about real people who are younger than you is not wrong. They are merely characters who share some characteristics and a name.

Sorry I turned your message into a ranting platform, but I've been so bothered by this issue because it shouldn't even be an issue. If you haven't blocked the fic writer, I encourage that you do because you're right in that age range of people they don't want reading their stuff. They won't miss your readership. I honestly blocked them as soon as they responded to me because it wasn't worth the battle and they clearly don't want my readership either. The beauty of Tumblr is how easy it is to block blogs to eliminate toxicity. ☺️ Thank you again for the message and I hope you find future fics with writers who don't mind older readers reading their smut. 💜 And you also have a safe place here on my blog.

[zayacv]

Let’s talk about serious problems. In any fandom. We all used that outside of fandoms it’s not safe to talk about your preferences, hobby or interests. But recent tweets showed clearly that even in your fandom you can’t feel fully comfortable and can be judged as well when you’re turning 30.  Anyone of you can be Alfi in any fandom.I’m tagging harringrove fandom bc this bullshit with ageism came here as well.

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[gahdamnpunk]

Truly iconic

[sunlit-music]

Online sexist comments by people on YouTube about female celebrities are so exhausting. Saying things like, “I think she’s fake because she’s ugly,” or “I think she’s nice and honest because she’s good looking.”

Or, “If she’s ugly and complaining about someone she must be jealous.” Be quiet. Don’t talk of things you don’t know about.

There’s plenty of people who are ugly but still nice and honest, without being jealous of other people. Looking plain or disfigured doesn’t prevent people from being honest and kind.

[bellapasionada]

Correct me if I'm wrong

But I've never noticed ageist comments directed toward Carol (and by extension Melissa) in regards to her being paired romantically with Axel, Tyrese, Morgan, Ezekiel or Rick. So why are there always a landslide of disrespectful remarks made when it comes to her and Daryl (NR)? Both AL and KP are YOUNGER than Norman, and I can't imagine anyone claimimg Carol has a mother/son relationship with either Zeke or Rick. I will never understand. Truly.

[out-of-the-box-and-into-alchemy]

I’ve had so many people in my real life (and online) tell me that I’m kind and beautiful so what the haters think doesn’t really affect me too much .. and no you don’t need to be in your 20’s to be beautiful either

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Transcript of an insightful comment by darylconnieftw: To be fair, that’s a cheap stereotype. I’m one of the oldest Millenials and I’ve worked since I was 16 , often doing stuff at those jobs that nobody else would (regardless of age) with no complaint. It’s all a matter of being taught work ethic. That’s not something you’re born knowing. If “kids today” don’t have it, blame those that should have shown them.