Here’s a fun story time! So I’m a closeted trans boy in a transphobic household… very fun very cutesy. I had a piano recital and the dress code for performers was ‘Best Dressed’. So my mom said I needed to wear a dress… I asked if I could wear dress pants instead (still best dressed, so I thought it wouldn’t matter) and she said “If you wear dress pants you’d look like a lesbian or some weird trans kid. I won’t let my daughter get embarrassed that way.” Or something close and equally as crappy. Ummmmm… that was uncomfortable… surprise mom! I’m actually a boy and am also Pansexual! Yay!
Anywho, I just wanted some advice?
Hi <3
I'm so sorry your mom is acting that way. If you think fighting with her about like...the aesthetic of clothing would be useless, and it sounds like coming out is unsafe, could you go the practicality route? Like when you play piano, you have to get behind and in front of a bench. In a dress, you could accidentally show things you didn't want to show people...like maybe if you word it like you're scared of looking too suggestive, then she'd agree to the pants?
Not that you should have to find a good reason to wear what you want, but...
Sending love!
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@buckskittle
Hi! I'm not a professional, but I'd consider both of those things traumatic, definitely. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. If you ever want to vent about either of them, I'm here for you! <3
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@teasiswriter
Aaaahh I just want to be employed
Nowhere is getting back to me and I’m so stressed
Everyone else has jobs and are already working because they’re legally old enough to and I have like, no way to because I’m just a little bit too young and only a few places are hiring.
I look through so many and 90% of them need me to be older, which I guess means I’ll have options in like 2 years but right now I feel embarrassed and ashamed and stressed. I’m like, on top of everything and everyone is just being so slow at getting back to me, OR they just flat out say no after misleading me, OR the thing I applied for gave me the WRONG LOCATION and so now I have to go look for jobs somewhere else
I just want to get out of the house and get moneyyyyyyyy
😞 thank you for listening 🫶
Hi!
I'm so sorry, I feel this struggle so much. it sucks that the job market is like this, and it's not fair at all. I know you'll find something eventually, but the journey to get there is so stressful. Please know that you have no reason to feel embarrassed or ashamed, it's NOT you. It's just a fucked-up system.
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suffocated anon
Hey cas!! This is suffocated anon.
I last talked to you about how my mum never let me cut my hair and my doubts on my gender identity.
I finally cut my hair short!!!!!! I had waist length hair before and now it's shoulder length (wolfcut). It's the first day of pride month and I can't be more happy🥺 Now I can do more hairstyle that would make me look either masculine or feminine according to my need. I finally feel like myself.
I decided not to put a label on whatever I'm feeling. I'm only 18 and I want to spend some time doing what i want to, without dissecting it to fit myself inside a label.
Thank you for listening<3
AHHHHH I'm so happy for you! I'm so glad you've been able to do what feels right for you, and I'm even more glad you feel like yourself. I bet you rock that haircut <3
Happy pride!
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chesh anon - TW-SA
UM NO THIS IS NOT NORMAL
Nope. No. Not normal. You are not being silly, you are not insane, and you NEED to tell someone. Because this isn't safe at ALL.
I know you said you needed to think about a trustworthy adult, and that totally makes sense! But once you pick someone, that's definitely something to bring up- everything you told me. This is scary, and unsafe, and absolutely horrifying to hear. My heart breaks for you, to be honest. Someone needs to help you.
TRIGGER WARNING- SA
I also really want to encourage you- if you wake up feeling like something is wrong again, DO NOT WAIT. Report it. Go to the police. Don't shower, don't do anything that could remove any evidence. Because if you report it, they can check to see if there's proof that something happened, which I know sounds scary but it will be VERY helpful in the long run.
I'm sending you so much love and another reminder that you're not crazy. Your body is your own, and you should always be able to set boundaries around it.
So I have this friend who's been through some... stuff. She's had a lot of friends say messed up things to her, and sometimes just straight-up leave. She talks a lot about voices in her head, which I just can't really seem to understand. She also talks about how she "knows" I'm going to leave her, which I definitely don't plan on doing, but when I tell her that, she says I'm lying. In the past, I've had a lot of friends try to gaslight me about my own emotions, so I really hate being told I'm lying. But when I tell her that, she just doubles down.
I'm really trying my best, but in general, it's really hard for me to stay in friendships. It just feels way more natural to leave as soon I do something wrong, or something within the friendship goes wrong, which I know is completely a shitty thing to do. I'm still pretty young (think mid-teens), but after a few rabbit holes, I've noticed that I relate to a ton of symptoms of AVPD (I know probably don't have it, I've just noticed I relate to it in a lot of ways). I don't want to leave, but it just feels so actively difficult to not shut down and leave. But I've been in this friendship and others for a few years now, so I think I'm managing to be stubborn enough to stay.
Do you have any advice on what to say or do?
Hi!
Do you feel like you could be honest with your friend? Like tell her that what she's saying affects you, and that you're also struggling? Like...idk, I know you're probably not saying anything to make her feel better, but your feelings and struggles are also important. I think communicating in a friendship is important, and it's really important for a friendship to last.
Also, are you able to talk to a therapist or counselor about the possible AVPD? It's not something I'm familiar with, but I feel like finding strategies to cope, whether you have it or not, is super important. You clearly care a lot about your friendships a lot and you're very self-aware, which is amazing, so talking about it might be helpful, you know?
Sending love! <3
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suffocated anon
Hey cas! This is suffocated anon,
I talked a while back about experiencing body dysphoria and how I wanted to cut my hair so badly but my mum never allowed me to do so.
well she still hasn't said yes for a haircut but that's not what I wanted to ask. I wanted to ask how to figure out if the label "Non Binary" fits me. I tried a variety of online quizzes but they aren't exactly helpful. I get confused a lot because of the pronouns issue. I currently use my birth assigned pronouns she/her, but the thing is in my country and our language we don't have much use of pronouns. we barely use it. So I don't even know if I'm comfortable with my current pronouns. I so badly want to try a binder but i have no idea how i can sneak it into my house without my mum finding out. I cannot imagine trying to explain what's going on when I myself don't understand it that well.
I also wanted to tell you that even if you don't have the answers, it's just nice to simply know that someone out there is understands the struggles I'm going through. Makes me feel like I'm not alone.
I just wanted to rant, so hope you don't mind.
hope you're doing well<3
Hi!
I mean, I think the best way to figure it out, at least in my experience, is to see what other nonbinary people say about their experiences and see if you can relate to any of it. No two nonbinary people are the same, of course, but nonbinary people can have some similar experiences. I can't give you the answers for sure, but I can tell you that the goal isn't to find a label that makes sense to other people. The goal is to figure out what works for YOU- whether that means finding a label or not. What feels right to you is most important.
And please know that you abslutely aren't alone. A lot of people struggle with their gender, and that's okay! Your feelings are real and valid, and I'm here to listen <3
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panromantic anon
Pan romantic anon,
SHE SAID I AM CUTE AND WHEN I SAID BABY AND HUGGED HER SHE WAS LIKE AWW AND WE STAYED CUDDLED AND I AM HAPPY
anyway how are you <3?
Awww that's so exciting! Congratulations! I'm pretty good! I hope things are still going well!
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right anon
Hi!! It’s right anon ,, it’s been a WHILE but I just wanted to update ,, I’ve started GED prep classes and I’m hoping to finish by the end of this year!! All the teachers are super nice and supportive so I’m very hopeful that everything will go well!! And I’m very happy about these classes cause I was really upset that I wouldn’t get to have a graduation but the collage that does these ones does a ceremony for the people who complete it at the end of every year!! Anyways I hope you’re doing well!!
OMG that's so wonderful! I'm so excited for you!! Please keep me updated if you think of it, I want to hear how you're doing in the classes and on your test!
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Outlet anon
Hi! <3
omg the river analogy makes SO much sense, and I feel like that so much in like...active discord chats and stuff. I'm so glad I'm not the only one.
I honestly don't have any recommendations because the online group I used to use was years ago and disbanded a long time ago...I can do some research if you want, though?
I'm so glad you have someone for emergencies. I'm sorry you don't feel like you can ask them for advice, but I'm glad you at least can call them in a scary situation.
As for your other ask: yes, the gum is such a good idea! I'm so proud of you for thinking of it! As someone who has used gum in the past for coping though....just don't chew a whole pack of sugar-free gum in like ten minutes. The sugar-free stuff, xylitol, can make you shit uncontrollably. In the middle of your 4-hour shift at a job where nobody is there to take over for you when you need to go to the bathroom.
crutches anon (new), comforting friend anon (new), autistic brother anon (new), suffocated anon, art major anon (new)
crutches anon
Hi Cas!
I am probably in the worst pain of my life right now! I had an injury on my knee, then I aggravated it through sports n theatre n such. I had a doctors appointment, then 2 days before that I fell on it, made it worse, and have been on crutches for a couple days. the problem is, I have been putting all of my weight om my opposite leg for about a year and a half (that's how long th injury was ago), and now they both hurt BAD. Both my knees, along with my hands, ribs, and arms from using the crutches. I have an orthopedic appointment scheduled for the near future, but still have school. I am taking the most pain killers I can, but still hurt
advice?
Hi!
I mean I'm not a doctor but you need to stay off of your feet! I know you want to do sports and theater but every time you push through, you make things worse to the point where you could cause a permanent injury! PLEASE consider taking it easy for a while. I have a feeling the doctor will say the same thing <3
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comforting friend anon (new)
How do I comfort my friend over text when she feels bad about being thin, and my mom comes into the room and gets mad at me for eating too much?
Hi!
I definitely understand how that could be hard, and I remember dealing with similar feelings as a kid. I mean you could simply say "Wow, that sounds shitty" or "I know what it's like to have body confidence issues." But if that's a subject you don't want to talk about, you're also allowed to say something like "Hey, I know that's hard for you, but that subject makes me uncomfortable. Is there any way we could talk about something else?" You have every right to set boundaries <3
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autistic brother anon
My brother is autistic and it makes my life extremely difficult. He isn’t willing to compromise, has rules that are almost impossible to work around, and often takes out his anger by hitting me. I feel bad complaining about it because it’s just the way his brain works but it still fucks up my life in so many ways
Hey I have an autistic brother too! I totally understand your feelings, here.
Here's the thing- yes, his brain may work differently than yours, but the hitting is NOT okay. Do your parents do anything about it? Does your school provide services?
Either way, your safety is IMPORTANT and you have a right to take space from him if he's not being safe.
Also, learning to compromise is part of life. He may need to learn how to do that a bit differently, but being autistic doesn't mean he gets whatever he wants- that's not teaching him how to succeed in life. It sounds like his teachers/your parents might need to think about different ways to work with him on these skills, because autistic people CAN compromise!
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suffocated anon
um... cas? I'm suffocated anon. I talked about trying to find a proper label for my gender. I had given up on finding my label before because I felt like I didn't have the proper resources or an accepting surrounding for experimenting with it.
Yesterday I tried one of those "am I trans" Quizzes. I know that the results are not trust worthy Or perfect as I've taken the "am i gay" Quiz before to figure out my sexuality (I'm bi btw💜🩷🩵). I got result as trans. I kinda sorta panicked and took 5 quizzes and all of the results came as trans. I've had the general thoughts of how it would've been if I were a boy but I've never thought about "being" a boy. I sound crazy right? It doesn't make sense. Idk how to feel. To frankly say, the only three problems I have with being trans is 1) I don't want to have a male genital (I will gladly get rid off my boobs but I'm fine with everything else that I have). 2) I sometimes do feel feminine, though most times I like to look masc. 3) I don't really have a problem with the name I have or at least I don't think so. It is a girls name though.
Because of these reasons, I feel like an imposter for getting that results.
Thank you for listening ❤
Hi!
Well I think you're right in saying that those quizzes ARENT always reliable. However, remember that trans people aren't all the same! There are all different trans identities- nonbinary, genderfluid, agender, and more! it sounds like you should take some time to look into those things and see if any of them resonate. If they do- awesome! You learned something about yourself! And if not- well, that's okay, too! Either way, you aren't an imposter. Your feelings are valid, no matter what <3
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art major anon (new)
Hi Cas, I hope you’re feeling well.
Im sorry to bother you with this it’s just that I don’t really know what to do or how to deal with my current situation
So Im in 10th grade and going to 11th September.
one of my majors is Art (i understand its different in the us, i study my majors year 10-12th)
my art class is my safe space
do I hate and is anoyed by quite a bit kids there? Yes. There are some there that joined in the middle of the year and make havok in class but is not the main thing.
every once in a while my art class has a workshop that takes place outside of school and is usually very fun
we had one yesterday (Friday morning) and there, with some of my classmates I see a Girl. Consider it is 2 weeks finishing the school year and my heart is pounding another one joining but not just antone as well
she used to be in my class at middle school. Lets just say my time there was… unpleasant
Quite a bit ago I sent you an ask when I found out about some thing they told about me when I was abroad w o contact and the things they blamed me of and stuff a year after it happened and was questioning how i should feel about it . Finding out my thoughts of everyone staring at me with hatred and trying to convince myself it all in my head only to a year later find out it is all real and I wont lie if Isay I still struggle with some of its effects.
I don’t remember the anon name you gave me unfortunately sorry
she was in that class
And honestly she was a real trigger for me
my Art teacher is one of the most amazing teachers I have ever met. She takes such good care of us and I really love her
but then my teacher said she is only here for the workshop and I was relieved and I guess she saw it on my face and I kinda said she was from my middle school and she was like “I dont like the sound of that… I was told by teachers she is very nice! A quite girl a good student she seems nice” and I replied “Yes because you’re a teacher” I know you are a teacher as well but some students appear a certain way to teachers and it’s not always how they actually are
of course the teacher see the quite polite girl they haven't heard her make plans with a girl calling her her vest friend that barely minutes later start calling her a weirdo to another one.
I thought ok, only for the workshop, she isn’t going ro be here
then I was told she was actually planned to join us just next year
and honestly I was a bit out of it after that
I was trying to think in my brain about how am I going to deal with her
a constant trigger in my little safe haven in schoool
in the studio for our class that Im at lots oc breakes to draw in quite
she felt like a shadow
so after the instructor explained a few things , I asked my teacher if I could go outside for a bit bc I needed a bit to my self and she said ofcourse and she said she’ll like show me the way to the bathroom bc its a big building and stuff and she asked me about how Im feeling and she saw O was a bit messy headed(rough trunslation) and she asked me about whats up w me and that girl and I didn’t really go into detail but
I don’t think a lot of people are bad people
there are a lot of people that annoy me and I hate and don’t want to be near but not many i think are bad people
I think she is
I feel uneasy around her
She reminds me of things that I don’t want to think of
i kinda said that
I can theoretically try and be better with it but…
it was messy
I didn’t go into details or really told her what happened and what she did to me but she understood she was a trigger
and I kinda teared up bc Im not good at that and I have been suppressing it
not sobbing but tears and i guess idrk
she said the paperwork aren’t all the way through, and how she said she didn’t have any friends in the class so she didn’t know a thing and it wasn’t as certain
she sort of implied that she is strongly rethinking letting her join . She didn’t even want to originally but menegment and stuf-
now there are 2 options of what to happen September 1st
either she will in the class- a constant trigger in my ex- safe space and the new chapter in my life , and Ill grow with tome to deal with it, but It will mever be the same. I truly think she’s a bad person. I don’t feel safe mentally around her to be my self , or anything.
Or she wont be in . My teacher will stop her and she wont come in to it. Then I have to think about what if
what if I was her
she didn’t really seem to like art but maybe now she does. And bc of she will not study it.
I know some people think Im a bad person
what If I was her
I hate her
I don’t want her anywhere near me because when I see her face I remember all the things she said and did and was a part of hiding from me. All the things that I thought I left behind
I don’t really know how to deal with my emotions right now
Im scared
I don’t know
Hi!
Okay I'm not sure if I'm completely understanding the story because I know you were a little vague on purpose, but if I were you, I would very clearly tell the teacher about your concerns. Tell the teacher what you told me- that art is your safe place, that this person brings up bad memories, etc. You have a right to voice your concerns, and you should absolutely share that with the adult in charge.
Then, let the teacher make the decision. Don't push for one way or the other, JUST share your feelings, and let the teacher take it from there.
And if the teacher allows the girl to be in the class and she pulls ANY shit, you tell the teacher right away. You deserve that safe space and the teacher should ensure it's safe for you. But also, don't be afraid to say something because if the teacher DOES choose to let her in the class, then she has EXTRA responsibility to keep you safe. Also, I know it's hard, but that's your space, so keep acting the same way even with the girl in class. Odds are, since she's the new person and she doesn't have a group, she'll pick up on how things work and not make waves. But if she tries something, speak up.
pan romantic anon, @teasiswriter, will anon (new), suffocated anon (new), engineering anon (new)
Pan romantic anon,
...hey, so um
My country decided to bring a new law. That says people who doesn't dress appropriate might get 3 years of prison.
For example, if you are a female, you need to dress like one, and if you are a male you need to dress like one. If you dress like opposite gender that's considered lgbt and it's bad. Apperantly. Being gay isn't a crime yet, but it might be. And well, it's not allowed either. I can't get married to same gender for example.
And like, since our government doesn't believe in more than two genders and want us to dress normal and not like we are ill.
Being lgbt is an illness, for most people. Half, to be exact. But well, you can think of our country like america but worse. He won slightly, and um. I wanted, hoped, oneday I could be more masculine if I don't visit my family often but.
I guess not.
Hope I don't end up in prison. Time to buy a dress I guess. Hope they won't ban trousers for girls. They can't, at least in a few years. But am scared.
Just wanted to share, the law didn't get accepted yet.
I just, hoped, maybe I would be able to have a lavender marriage in the future and saying I am a girl but dressing masc. That was my future plan. Maybe having a lover. Dunno. I don't think I will move on from x.
Hi <3
That's an absolutely disgusting law, and I understand why you feel hopeless right now. I'm not telling you that you should break laws or put yourself in danger, but I do want to remind you of a few things:
We live in a time right now where change happens MUCH quicker than it did in the past. It used to take hundreds of years for changes to occur, but now things are moving at a much faster pace (sometimes in a good way, sometimes bad). This means that in your lifetime, your country could change in ways you can't even imagine right now.
In my country, racial segregation was only outlawed 60 years ago. Like...what? who knows what will happen in the next sixty years? I know it's hard to endure and be patient, but the likelihood that things will stay the same for the rest of your life is zero. Things will change, and our goal right now is to hold on until they do, and do our best to help them change <3
I'm here for you in any way I can be.
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@teasiswriter
AHAJSDKSOSNEDFGHFFFF
I made a BIG decision and decided to do a declamation contest for my school (I go in front of the whole school and recite Ancient Greek (or Latin, but I take Greek so I picked Greek instead) poetry or prose) and that’s on April 1st (yes yes April fools day) and I ALSO learned that my abusive friend is almost definitely coming to my new school (I saw his name on like, a list of names to write acceptance cards for (to welcome new students into the community) and the lady at the admissions office said that the names on that list are probably getting in), and revisit days are on that day (where middle schoolers revisit their schools they’re applying to) so there’s a likely chance that he’ll see me do my declamation in front of the whole school
And it’s kinda nerve-wracking, but… also kinda fun? Like, fun in the same way sky diving would be fun. Very close to danger yet you laugh anyways.
It’s kind of a motivation to do even better, y’know? He’ll see me get congratulated by my friends and do an awesome speech and it’ll show him that I got better. It’ll show him that I healed. It’ll show him that I’m okay now and he can’t hurt me anymore
And I know I shouldn’t be doing it for him (which im not), but it’s kind of a bonus? It’s kinda cool I guess? I dunno, I just kinda wanted to get this off my chest
Uhmmmm yeah! Have a great day!
Honestly I think that's a great way to look at it. Show him how awesome you are, you know? Show him that you've thrived and you can succeed. Because no matter how you do, the fact that you're doing amazing things like that shows you're smart and successful and moving past your past.
Let me know how it goes!
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Will anon
Hey!!!!!!
So background: Me and the person I will be talking about have had quite a rough history in terms of relationships and attraction.
Now main: There is this person, let’s say their name is Will. Me and Will have had rocky history involving them attempting to cheat with me. Basically, they had a crush on me while in a committed relationship, and attempted to get with me without leaving their ex.
We stopped talking for a long time after this, maybe three months. They had a boyfriend now and everything. Eventually, in the midst of an episode, I reached back out to be friends again. We talked for a minute before Will and I hung out with some mutual friends and they gave me this gift. It was these two temporary tattoos that said always, which is weirdly intimate for two people that stopped talking and are only just beginning to talk. Anyway, we’ve been texting for a long time at this point, and on Saturday Will invited me over to their house. At this point we had been posting blatantly obvious things about liking each other (I’m not really sure why I did it) and they broke up with their boyfriend the moment I got there. We were cracking gay jokes the whole time, until we eventually ended up kissing. It was a big things for me, since I don’t normally trust people like that due to trauma. We’ve still been talking everyday, but I’m slowly getting less and less sure. Like yes, we both flirt, but they seem to be in it a lot more, even calling me perfect and sending me a paragraph a few hours ago. I can’t tell if reaching out was the right thing to do, let alone kiss them.
I’m just very confused overall m.
Hi!
Okay so I don't think you need to regret reaching out to will or kissing them even if you choose not to take things further. You don't owe them anything, you know?
I DO think you need to take some time to work out (1) how you feel about will and (2) how you feel about their past actions. And you're allowed to take as much time to figure that out as you need! If will is pressuring out, you have every right to say no and take time. But again, you do not owe them ANYTHING just because you reached out.
I do think if you do choose to continue with them though, it might be a good idea to talk about your past. If they were willing to cheat once, they need to give you some pretty convincing arguments as to why they won't do it in the future. I don't think people are irredeemable, but this is a situation where remorse needs to be shown.
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suffocated anon (new)
hey cas!,
I wanted to vent to someone and I can't risk telling anyone irl without sounding crazy... I've been experiencing sudden hits of body dysmorphia or disphoria(idk the actual term to describe my experience....are they the same thing?) I hate parts of my body and how it looks, I've been feeling this way for a few years now and I'm not proud to say that I've developed some bad coping mechanisms (I don't follow those anymore, atleast I try not to)... But recently I started to feel like, I don't want to look like a girl...I am a girl and I don't want to BE a boy but sometimes I want to LOOK like one...does that make sense? Sometimes it just suffocated me to have long hair or wear dresses that...makes me look like a girl and when I say suffocates, I actually mean it suffocates me, like I can't breathe with all the things that I'm supposed to be...
I don't know the name for what I feel and it feels like I'm going crazy....I want to cut my hair because I think it would actually help me breathe but my mum is all about how bad it would be for a girl of young age (I'm about to turn 18-_-) to cut her growing hair...
I want to cry and I just...i just want someone to give me a hug and tell me they understand me...Because even I don't know what the fuck is up with me...
Anyways, I've been rambling too much...thank you for reading this❤️🌼
Hope you're doing well<3
Hi <3
I completely understand what you're saying and am sending you all the hugs.
My non-professional understanding of the difference between the two words is
dysmorphia- seeing your body incorrectly. Like you think you're heavier than you are or uglier than you are.
dysphoria- your body feels wrong, like it's not supposed to be how it is. But you are aware of the reality of your body.
This sounds like dysphoria (not a professional but yeah)
Honestly I think you're almost 18 and you should try some non-permanent things to see if that helps! Cut your hair, try some new clothes, experiment with pronouns if you want, etc. Hair grows back. But if your mom is making a bid deal of it, you can try googling how to style hair to make it look shorter, or pulling it back under a hat. Also, you can look up masculinizing makeup (contour is the best) or try (a positively-reviewed) binder.
With all this, the worst that can happen is you realize you ARE a girl and you were just mistaken. Which is completely okay! There's nothing wrong with questioning yourself! But maybe after trying these things, you'll learn something new about yourself!
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engineering anon
Hi lovely!
Okay so I pierced my ears at home with the most unsafe way lol
No tbh I am not that dumb I actually made sure it was sanitized (took my doctor brother's supplies) and did it myself with a needle (my ears were pierced at a young age but it closed so I had to open it again, a little blood but no worries.) then I decided to get a new one, I need an actual machine bc even though the first two were great I still don't want to deal with a possibility of injection. (And belly, nipples, nose, etc were harder I heard)
So I made my friend buy one for me (I gave the money) and now I have an actual thing to pierce and tattoo- and my first tattoo on myself were great as well, like, I am already an artist and spend a lot of time on fake skin before doing the actual thing
Anyway it's cool, my friend thought it was by jass -
(jass is a really cool tattoo artist we have, so fucking expensive though)
And I know what I did is wrong or not a good example or anything, i am just a broke student thanks, but, anyway, I just wanted to tell bc I was living with my parents at that time and had to cover up everything with makeup, and I never said anyone I did them by myself. Kinda wanted someone to know that. I can't explain why, just wanted to share it's my art and my doing and I did it without getting disowned (they didn't notice I was careful) and idk.
I obviously know it's a bad thing and bad example and not something to be proud of, but like. My rebellion was that and sometimes you want your actions to be known even if they are bad , if it means something to you.
And sorry if that makes you uncomfortable.
I am studying engineering but my hope is to go to a first world country and be a tattoo artist or a piercer or something like that maybe? Or am I too irresponsible for that lol
Anyway, bye
Hi!
Honestly, I think wanting to become a tattoo artist/piercer is amazing, and I am so tempted to study tattooing myself. I also am happy you're so proud of your rebellion lol
I do have some very gentle advice though
remember that piercers and tattoo artists (as well as many other people who work in similar fields) can attract or repel clients with how they look. I'm not saying like...if you're pretty or not. But if you attempt a tattoo on yourself and it goes poorly, that could affect being able to book a client in the future.
To go along with that, infection isn't the only risk with self-piercing/tattooing. With piercing, you could risk hitting major arteries and losing a lot of blood (I heard that the lip piercing, for example, can carry this risk if done incorrectly. Both can risk scarring, ink/jewelry rejection, and transmission of diseases.
Are you able to, instead, look for an apprenticeship in the area? Or even see if you can work at the front desk of a piercing/tattoo place? This way you can learn basic safety procedures and possibly learn more advanced techniques as well.
I hope you understand I'm not trying to discourage you, but I worry about the risks, especially if this is still new to you.
