I’ve lost myself once. I hadn’t even known the feeling prior to when it happened until it suddenly felt as if I didn’t remember my own name. Sure, the statement seems like a melodramatic thing to say but everyone’s experiences are different and for me it just so happened to be a pretty profound one. Anyway, for you it’s probably that you cant help feeling like you’ve been getting yourself into too many things that don’t represent who you are. It’s as if bits and pieces of your time and energy are being taken from you everyday leaving you feeling lost and wondering when it’s ever going to be enough. Usually this happens while one is in the midst of their journeys towards achieving their goals, cause the busyness of our schedules can be intense enough to exclude “me” time.
But these intense vibes of feeling lost only appear to be a stunt in your progress but it’s actually so much the opposite. These energies and vibes are actually life’s way of yelling at you to make some changes and get back in touch with yourself. So find yourself.
And for a little push to get you on that path, here are Lona Misa’s 10 tips for getting UN-tired and inspired.
1. First things first- Let it out. Take a day or two off to escape into your personal space and solitude. Write out ALL your feeling, and cry if you really need to. Punch soft pillows or if it feels nice to lie down, do so and sleep it out! It’s a matter of letting out any toxic vibes you’d been holding inside. Don’t feel bad about spending the time to be alone for a moment even if it’s for a day or two. It’s for your well-being.
2. Triggers- Your triggers are the things that set you up for negative emotion arousal, so consider what lights the fire to your inner inadequacies. Could it be doing a certain activity? Or talking to a certain person who makes you feel uneasy? Certain triggers can cause you to feel most NOT like yourself. So learn them and be aware of them so you can start understanding yourself. Understanding your emotions is really important in the process to finding yourself.
3. Inner circle- We ALL care what people think. But instead of sacrificing your individuality trying to impress the wrong kind of people, value it and impress the right kind of people. There’s no use in distracting yourself wishing those you put you down wouldn’t, cause this is a HUGE trigger for losing yourself. So put the energy you have into making friends toward those who like your genuine identity.
4. Learn the word NO- A lot of us feel obligated and even pressured to please everyone. But in saying yes to every outing or every favor, you become disconnected from your own life goals. In some ways, saying yes to everybody else’s wishes interrupts your progress toward finding yourself. So feel free to say no to things that aren’t completely necessary to partake in.
5. Forgive- Forgive your shortcomings and the regrettable decisions made in the past because those chapters of your life are over. Forgive yourself, and move on. And if there’s anything that encourages you to remain or go back to being a person you feel far removed from then exclude those things from your life, and substitute them for things that represent the person you are today.
6. Today’s awareness- Wherever you are, take a moment to enjoy the sounds you hear. Listen closely to the clock ticking, people talking, the wind outside, or the TV on in the other room. Be aware of your heart beating, and listen to the breaths you take….in…and out. Look around, and take notice to the things around you. Be aware that they are there with you such as the frames on the walls, the people, or the trees outside. Spend at least 5 min ONLY being aware of exactly where you are. Do this at least once a day, everyday. What better way to start finding yourself, than to start being aware that you’re ALIVE today! Cherish the day.
7. Nature- Think about the “Eolian Harp”. If you haven’t read the poem yet, let me explain. Samuel Taylor Coleridge’s “Eolian Harp” is a metaphor for nature and person, with the breeze representing nature and the harp representing person. Once the breeze touches the harp, music is produced which is something beautiful and inspiring. So, go for a walk. Turn off the background noise of your cellphone, Facebook and Instagram and go outside and breath in the fresh air instead. Because enjoying nature can produce inspiration within.
8. Lists- Making lists of your goals are not only fun, but also seriously motivating. Include short-term weekly goals and long term ones. The important thing is to list the goals that represent your needs and wants truest to you. Don’t list goals you feel you have to, to please others and society. List the goals that represent your truest desires.
9. Routines- Create sensible routines that accommodate your happiness and manage your time in ways that reduce stress and anxiety. Get into the habit of jotting to dos in a calendar, and crossing out unnecessary tasks if it means sacrificing your emotional stability.
10. Sleep well and eat well- Intake things that make you feel good, and sleep enough for FULL rejuvenation. And do a little cardio here and there throughout the week to improve your spirits.
Finding yourself again is really all about getting back in touch with your individuality and truest identity. So if your feeling lost, make the efforts to take back who you are! In fact, it SHOULD be a priority to stay true to yourself.
Hope these tips help! Feel free to re-blog with some of your own tips.
Sending out good vibes <3
