" was told when I was young that sex always hurts the woman. Every single time, 100%, no way around it, sure maybe some women enjoy it, but it's despite the pain and mostly because they're just happy that they can make their husbands happy. " "I wonder how much the mentally bracing yourself for pain affects the experience. Like a self-fulfilling prophecy. " "This makes me think of how asexual women, or women who aren't attracted to men fare under such a subculture. Since you expect to get nothing from sex, the fact that it gives you no pleasure is just normal."