— What does that ex think of you? [ft. Taylor Swift]
See Sun, Moon, VENUS and Rising.
My Catalog.
— aquarius, taurus, scorpio, leo.
To begin with, and as always I'll be honest: this connection seems to have been falling apart during the relationship, if there ever was one. This person, and even you, aren't dealing with the grief of something that's already dead; they keep going back, not even physically, but mentally. This person is with others, but they think about you, they compare others to you, almost as if they're afraid you'll see them with someone else, afraid of making the mistake of dating someone just like you, or of not finding yourself in anyone else. It's a very strong vicious cycle. This person misses you in the sense that they miss the chaos and the arguments; they can't stand boredom, and they're aware that the relationship wasn't going anywhere, but they don't care. It's as if they can't let go because they can't accept that you're gone. They unconsciously seek you out, and as I said, it's not so much physical; it's more energetic. It's that need to feel your presence, not to be with you. Going back to the places you used to frequent is difficult for this person, who struggles to forget the past, and perhaps this was relatively recent. They find it hard not to romanticize the pain, or rather, the chaos of the relationship. It may have been toxic, in the sense that you were never on the same page, never agreed on anything, and even together, you felt alone. But this person preferred your physical presence to having nothing at all. The "spiritual" energy is very strong; they think it's not over, but also that they shouldn't contact you again. They're going through this breakup as a grieving process, but they don't realize it. I feel that, in order to avoid contacting you again, this person has to pretend you're dead.
— song for you.
Maroon by Taylor Swift.
— pisces, gemini, sagittarius, virgo.
I'll start here with complete honesty: this is a complex relationship, and this person is complex. Things didn't end well at all; in fact, it's likely they never truly ended, in the sense that you're constantly on and off. There's never a clear ending because there's always potential for improvement, which never actually materializes. This person dwells on what they lost, on the moments you shared, on the plans you had that didn't come to fruition. I feel this person is either a bit colder than you or is focused on the lost future. They had the desire or the hope of creating something lasting, but it didn't happen. And I think they don't fully accept the blame. This person, at least judging by their personality, is very much about planning and thinking things through far in advance, and they had you in those long-term plans, but the feelings weren't there; instead, they needed that sense of security, of having someone else. It's like he saw the relationship as something "yes, it could be more serious," but he never wanted to put in the emotional work. Their emotions are very detached, goals are calculating, and they have a hard time understanding why it would be THEIR fault. And here I reiterate, I'll be super honest: this person doesn't accept any mistakes, any blame, anything that would change how the see themselves. Is this a narcissist? Hmm, no. But if they do have a hard time admitting their mistakes and grew up without knowing how to express himself emotionally, is that justifiable? Not really. These things happen. This person regrets and is hurting over what didn't happen, but they don't ask themselves why. This is someone who always has an excuse for their bad behavior and knows how to flatter people, generally speaking. They're not a bad person, but he's far from being a good partner, and that's something you can't change. Sometimes things just happen that way. They think of you as a means to an end, that you ask for too much, or more than they can give you emotionally, and they also thinks you two are not compatible, that every time you get back together you remember why it wasn't a good idea. Yes, this person is colder than you, and there's a huge emotional distance. It's very difficult to know what they feel because they literally won't let me see it; I feel like they don't know what they feel.
— song for you.
Dear John by Taylor Swift.
— aries, libra, cancer, capricorn.
There's so much left unsaid here, truths still unspoken. It's like this person is holding back from messaging you about everything they've been going through since the breakup. I feel like it ended so abruptly; one minute they were fine, and the next, it was over. And even after all this time, this person still doesn't understand what happened or what caused the split. They think they did something wrong, but they don't know exactly what—that you left them for someone else, but they're not sure. It's like you vanished from their life overnight, and they're trying to pick up the pieces. They're watching you, wanting to talk to you, or rather, asking you why things ended the way they did. What I see in this connection is that it wasn't a one-night stand. Maybe it was doomed from the start. Perhaps you knew it, but the other person didn't, yet it's like they're not paying much attention to you, right? There was a lot of intensity in this relationship; quiet moments felt boring, so there was always a problem. It's like you two didn't quite click, and what motivated you most was that emotional rollercoaster. This person felt great when they had your attention, as if you were putting them on a pedestal, but they didn't give you the same importance. They're probably only now realizing that there are many things about you they didn't know, perhaps because they never asked, and you felt that the only way to get their attention was by causing trouble. This person still misses you, a lot, because you boosted their ego, you made them feel like no one else ever had, but they couldn't give you the same energy. They miss feeling like they could control you or that your emotions depended on what they did or said. Because, yes, you put this person on a very high pedestal. I feel like you're realizing your mistake now, and if they're looking for you again, it's because they want that adrenaline rush of chaos and ego boost. They can't forget you, but they didn't know how to love you.
— song for you.
Red by Taylor Swift.
