I just read your post about why you don't write fics about Emma getting married/having kids. I appreciated it so much. As a person who doesn't want kids. It's nice to see someone else point out these are also valid life choices. Thank you so much.
You are very welcome! Honestly, that’s part of why I ultimately decided to post it. I tend to not be very ranty on my blog. I like to keep it a happy place of fandom and travel and quotes. But every now and again, something just gets under my skin, and this is one of those things.
And ya know, I don’t even think the questions come from a place where the asker stops to think about WHY it is that they expect that as the natural conclusion. It’s been drilled into us, into our culture, for so long, that I think a lot of people don’t even question why the baby and marriage thing would be the next step for the characters, because those are the boxes we check to A Fulfilled Life.
I want to be clear I am NOT shitting on anyone who is looking for marriage and kids. If that is what you want, I hope you find it, and you get those things. I just think too many people get pushed into this box that don’t necessarily want it, but feel obliged or guilted into it, because how dare you be female and want something other than A Family.
Needless to say, I feel very strongly about this. I’m 31. I hold a master’s degree. I have a career, and I’ve worked my ass off for those things. I’ve never wanted kids. And the shit that people have said to me, continue to say to me, about how “selfish” my choices are, how I’ll regret it, how I’ll change my mind, etc. etc., man oh man, does it make my blood boil. So just like other groups want representation, I too want to see fictional women who are happy in their lives without necessarily following the expected path, but do what makes them happy. None of us are getting out of here alive. Be a little selfish and be happy with your choices and make them your choices.
And now I’m getting off my soapbox for the night. Thank you for the message!
