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Forced HRT Survivor Flag

I was debating posting something so vulnerable but I’ve made more peace with this part of my life so I’ve decided to share this flag I made.

I’m a survivor of forced HRT. In other words, I was put under HRT that I didn’t fully agree to all in the name of me maintaining society’s perisex views of femininity. (Thankfully I’ve taken full control of my medical care and am feeling much better <3)

The budding rose in the middle alongside the petals falling from it represent forced change yet still remaining beautiful and whole all the same.

While undergoing forced HRT, it was very hard for me to stay alive due to the disabling side effects of hormones I wasn’t supposed to be on so I added a heart rate symbol. Lastly I made it purple due to it being a more gender neutral color.

(This flag is free to use for any intersex survivor of forced HRT. Just give credit @tendajiphoenix)

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Me @ perisex folk who send me asks: You are not entitled to know my CAGAB

You are not entitled to know what parts I do (and don’t!) have either.

You aren’t going to get an answer about what ‘I actually am’. It’s none of your business + as an intersex person, there is no straight answer. I define my own definition of myself.

I’m ignoring asks about this going forward.

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PCOS Butch Flag

I’m a butch sapphic with PCOS so I decided to make a flag for it!

The two teal stripes represent PCOS alongside the orange stripes from the OG butch pride flag!

The teal ring (PCOS) and the orange ring (butch identity) overlapping represents how having PCOS can influence butch identity in a way where the two coexist and actually often intersect!

(Free for use if you’re intersex w/ credit @tendajiphoenix)

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An little orchid drawing I did! Wanted to test my paintbrush tools and the other stuff in the art program I use.

I’ve come to love these flowers since they’re associated with my community! 💛💜

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Took me two hours to draw this and I’m pretty damn proud, even if it came with really heavy feelings.

I’m not going to sugarcoat it. With how things have been politically in the US, I’ve struggled a lot with deciding whether to keep being openly and visibly not pericishet or just shutting myself back in and deciding to walk through life going forward, masquerading as a non intersex person.

In the past, I’ve presented in a very binary way (both presenting as a man and a woman depending on the space I was in) over the years as a point of safety and it’s just so tempting to want to hide again.

It’s exhausting existing in a world that wants to stomp out who you are methodically and without remorse.

However, the amount of self love and joy I feel whenever I see this picture (and other pride related art I’ve made!) reminds me why I decided to speak up and tell my story to begin with: To let others know that they aren’t alone in their experiences and identity.

I’m going to keep creating and standing firm in who I am, even when those in political power want me to fall. Hopefully you can do the same.

And if you can’t due to safety? That’s okay too, especially right now.

Stay alive even if it means making this hard decision.

I’ll stand with you and see you for who you truly are. Not who society says you must be.

Always 🩵

-Tendaji (he/she)

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URL change!

This blog will be known as @ten-is-intersex

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Things to do this weekend (when I have time)

- Add a DNI list to pinned post📋

- Start website💻

- Nap after enjoying soup 🥣