#actually intersex

[is-this-intersexism]

Sigh. Some tiger blog is being such an arse….. :(

Got so annoyed I block. Spoke in a disgusting manner that I simply couldn’t look at it anymore. Pmos people are valid. X

this is intersexism

glad you blocked them <3

[gillyeowalters]

Honestly, at this point my need to interact with large portions of the queer community is closing in on zero. And that includes other intersex people.

Some of you are seemingly are so offended and scared by the thought of a cis (intersex) person sharing experiences with you, that you would rather belittle, misgender and be downright bigoted to a person, instead of being glad that you found someone else who knows and understands how it feels to be discriminated against.

I can't go into any tag, not even the intersex or intersexism tag, without having to read some post going "Cis people could never understand x experience" and it is something that I have been through myself.

"Cis people would never understand gender does not equal sex" -I am intersex. Of course I know.

"Cis people could never understand dysphoria" -they cut off entire parts of my genitals, including my penis and scrotum, making them unusable and forced me onto estrogen until I was 21 years old. How do you think I felt about that? People like me do not even get the grace of those unwanted changes happening naturally, they are forced onto us, maliciously. I get how it is to suffer dysphoria but most of you will never get the trauma that is having your body forcefully altered. You read the story of an IGM victim and think "well, that happened to them, that sucks", without realizing that the trauma never goes away. And I do not blame you. You haven't been through it. But shut your mouth when it comes to "how comfortable people like me must feel in their body".

"Cis people can't understand how it is to be discriminated against, just because you don't fit into societies expectations for your gender"- just plain fucking wrong, because gender nonconforming cis people exist. And yes, I know you love to imagine these people as "just eggs that haven't cracked yet" but guess what, you are a piece of shit for that. Being trans does not mean you have a better understanding of a person's gender than the person themself.

"Cis people will never know how it is to have laws that discriminate you for your gender identity"- fun fact, the only reason why I got to change my name, gender marker and got to get a mastectomy is because I genuinley used to identify as trans during my youth. A cis intersex person would not get the priviledge of changing their gender marker or getting their surgeries paid for unless they abandon their cis identity, regardless if they were forcefully reassigned or mutilated in their life. I still count as trans in my country, despite being an AMAB man. I will get hit by every anti-trans law. I had to go every difficult step a trans person had to go. But since I am cis, my experiences do not matter.

"Well, why don't you just identify as trans, then?" Because that would mean agreeing with my forceful and violent reassignment. And that is not the person I am. And I am not willing to abandon my identity, just because you feel uncomfortable with a cis person having similar experiences to yours.

But I can babble on about that as much as I want, because in the end you are all way to determined to uphold the binary of "trans means oppressed and never bigoted" and "cis means never oppressed and always bigoted. Oh, and too stupid to actually understand sex and gender and queerness." You are too fucking lazy to exchange "cishet" for "nonqueer" or at least "pericis" because ignoring people's experiences is so much easier than changing your vocabulary.

And with you I especially mean intersex trans people. You should know better. You rightfully complain about perisex people invalidating your identity and experiences and then turn around and do the same thing to a part of your own community.

I used to post in the transandrophobia tag a lot because as someone who lived as a trans man for over fifteen years a lot of the experiences resonated with me, but now every second day there is a post like the ones I have mentioned above. "You don't know how it is." I have known how it is for longer than most of you know that you are trans.

[myirlnameiscloud]

Every time a hyperestrogenic transmasc is born, the world gets a little brighter.

[is-this-intersexism]

my own friend said that due to me being reassigned male after birth , i cannot be a girl

he supports intersex trans girls , trans girls in general actually, but he said

"i cannot see a way for u to be feminine , ur too manly, u have potential to be non binary or any other stuff , just not that."

im never coming out to anyone again. Im never saying im intersex to anyone again, im never saying my asab to someone i trust again

this is an asshole

intersexism sure, but that friend was an asshole

you are whatever you think you are

fuck them, be you🫂

Don’t trust me on this? My ex told me I could never be intersex or a trans man because I needed to stay a girl for him, naturally I left. I was “too masculine” as is so I had to be a girl to balance it out???

Fuck people who don’t support you. Someone will, I came out to my bisexual bestie the next day and got instant good feedback

[myirlnameiscloud]

Sure. I guess I have some level of extra "passing privilege" or whatever because most of my legal documents say "M" and people think I'm a cis guy nowadays.

Every last drop of that passing privilege goes down the drain whenever I take my fucking shirt off.

[saffronofmars]

How many times must intersex people scream about tme/tma discourse before people will listen to us?

[ambiguousgenitalia-culture-is]

Is...is this a PMOS thing or CAH? I have the exact same issues as the anon with PMOS and the too narrow vagina.

I have PMOS, clitoromegaly, a vagina that's only 0.98 inches in width even when aroused that absolutely refuses to stretch, and what seems to be breast hypoplasia (the tubular kind).

Is this CAH or something else? Should I have myself checked out?

sorry about the huge delay, i hope you'll still see it.

honestly, i cannot tell as i am neither you nor your doctor. and i am nor giving a certain medical advice. but pmos and cah can be mistaken between each other. and clitoromegaly and vaginal hypoplasia are common traits/variations that come together with cah. if it is available to you, sure, you can check it out. though you need a knowledgeable doctor for that.

[agenital-spectrum-culture-is]

if this blog and the (amazing) flag you made just for intersex people or for altersex people as well? /genq, i think its fantastic either way

it is intersex-specific, but maybe i'll do something similar for altersex people if there's a demand. i've just done something for my personal experience. thank you for the compliment though!