Tonhon’s shock that Ai and Ni would even consider moving out after coming out, that they would think he would suddenly be uncomfortable around them...
Tonhon has never, never thought of his words in a personal way. He’s never considered that the people around him fit into the boxes that he mocks. That’s just not a connection he made.
Because he never considered any of it personal.
He never, ever thought that any of his friends would be gay. Or could be gay. I mean, look at the extent they had to go to just to convince him that it wasn’t a prank!
Yet he’s still shocked when they talk about moving out.
Because none of it, absolute none of it, was ever personal to him.
Look at how happy he is when he watches SOTUS. Look at how much he obviously connects with the characters. Then look at how he talks about gay people. And that’s because he’s never thinks of anything he says in personal terms.
It’s why he’s so shocked. It’s why he’ll probably keep saying those things for a while.
Because, for him, that’s just how people talk. It’s how his family has always talked. It doesn’t mean anything to him.
But it does mean a lot to the people around him. Now he’s being forced to face that his words have had meaning all along. He’s also being forced to face that he isn’t who he thinks he is.
Tonhon is going to rebuild himself in the rest of these episodes. But everyone’s going to have to keep pushing him. Luckily, sassy Chon is obviously here, with the help of his queer found family in Na and Ni and Ai and Miriam and Pang.