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Shout out to all my introvert friends who understand the struggle, and to my extrovert friends who get my ass in gear. As an ambivert, I am probably a confusing friend and therapist. 

(comic by the brilliant Sarah Andersen, of Sarah's Scribbles)

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The beginning therapist is bombarded with “self-care” talk. Most of it makes logical sense, every now and then it feels like a cop out when our grad schools, supervisors, friends, agencies, professional organizations or boards dismiss legit concerns we might have about our workload, unrealistic expectations placed upon us, etc. Many therapists can’t afford weekend getaways, nor can they fit a yoga class into their schedule. How do you get creative with self care on a budget? 

That said, here are some highlights from a training I provided to some colleagues this fall about avoiding burnout as a therapist- 

Maintain some kind of journal- track your habits, maintain a to-do list, daily gratitude log, Etc. You’re keeping track of so many people’s moods and emotions you may need written documentation of your own so you can honestly and thoughtfully tell your own therapist how you’re doing! 

Determine realistic activism and volunteering limits. Consider manual labor, giving blood, helping a friend move, attending a protest, that sorta stuff. Our jobs are so sedentary but our minds are perpetually exhausted. 

Keep a balanced caseload, when possible! Trust your limits. Be very protective of your schedule and your days off!!!!!!  You are truly on your own journey, don’t waste precious energy on others progress. 

One Size Does Not Fit All- It’s ok if you’re not into meditation and massage and all things woo. Find your thing.

Create a ritual for ending your day. Visualize shedding away parts of your day- leave some in the therapy room, at the doorway of your workplace, at your parking space, etc.

Set modest, measureable goals for yourself. What achievements or milestones are between where you are at now and where you would like to be? Be very specific- i.e., “say the word suicide with a client without using a euphemism” or “end the session at :50 instead of :55 by warning clients at :45″) 

Spend time with non-therapists. Be mindful of too much shop talk with other therapists.

Find strength in your communities, especially if you are from a community that is not dominate in our society. 

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People share the funniest sh*t their therapists have told them. Therapy's worth the cost.

The media gets a lot of things wrong. Fake news, amirite? (No, I am not "rite," they're doing their best, Mr. President.) One area where reality differs from things as seen on TV is in the world of therapy, where people are...

Words getting out that some of us are relatable and funny.... 

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Loving the private practice life!

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Promoting my practice next to a Berkeley Humane Society beer and doggo fundraiser

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Had a fantastic moment with a client yesterday- I mentioned this joke and it became a long conversation about the loneliness of having lots of acquaintances and few close friends

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A day in the life of a sex positive therapist! Nicely Done, Kimchi Cuddles!

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Yes- because these behaviors encourage us to constantly consider our values, our compassion and our self respect!