Coming Out Tip #19
Prepare for a conversation.
At times, a conversation with the person/people you came out to is inevitable. What you need to remember is that the conversation should be on your terms (if you are the one who came out) and still give the other person some space to ask questions and share. Understand that most people are simply confused or surprised and not trying to hurt you. However, others may not have this good intent all the time, so don’t come out if you think it might put you in danger.
Make sure you are in a safe place and feel comfortable to take a break or step out for a minute if you are overwhelmed. It is recommended to have these types of conversations in a neutral ground. For example: dining/living room, therapist’s office, a park, but NOT in your/their bedroom, house, or workplace if it is not shared. This will help both people feel safe but able to step out if needed. Additionally, have it at a time that is convenient and not rushed for either party, and a time when everyone is in an ok mood. It is ok to reschedule.
Beforehand, think of questions that might be asked and maybe prepare some answers. Consider what you would want to know if someone came out to you, but be sure to set boundaries so that you don’t regret oversharing. This is about you.
I hope you all had a lovely New Year’s :) (if you celebrate)
