Hiya!! So I think I’m variorented, but I’m not aspec at all?? So I’m romantically attracted to boys and masc enbies, but only sexually attracted to boys. Does this count as varioriented? If so, do you know of a specific identity that refers to this kind of attraction/know someone who might know?
Yes. Allos (alloromantic allosexuals) can be varioriented. Variorientation exists as a term specifically for those that recognize sexual and romantic orientations can be split and mixed, even outside aspec community (this is useful for this situation that you're not aspec). However most varioriented representation is within a-spec community, that's why sometimes most of our content is posts of them. Crossoriented allos are gatekept a lot, gatekeepers want split attraction model (SAM) be a thing only within aspec community, and some of them don't want this even to exist.
Discourses aside, torenromantic means romantic attraction to men and non-binary people. But you can also call yourself biromantic or other multiromantic spectral identity.
While monosexual, you can use androsexual (homosexual or heterosexual depending your gender), I guess there are other labels too.
Uranic is another label that may apply, this one does not specify the type of attraction (attraction to men, nongender people and all nbs who are not female-aligned or feminine).