#tough things

[bluestwitch]

It’s lucky Voldemort despises all things Muggle; this particular Horcrux could have never been destroyed.

[annasfridge]

One for the girls

[skiddo-xy]

Still conflicted about which language to study for university because at this point I need to choose a language that will serve me the best in the future so I narrowed it down to the 3 languages official at the UN which I don't speak which are Arabic, Spanish, and Russian. I wanted to do Arabic as it interests me the most and I have a bunch of relatives (including relatives who are closer to my age) who speak standard Arabic (Pakistani-Saudis) but they're like one to two courses short for it to be offered as a minor. Meanwhile Spanish just kind of bores me, not in an offensive way, but in a "I already speak French and am learning Italian and the cognates thrill expires for me after romance language #2" way. And then for Russian it kind of feels strange because I previously gave up on it because I didn't like my tutor (and then COVID happened) and I do find Russian history interesting so it could serve as a motivator but speaking of Russian history, I'm concerned about its career valuability going down (associated with Ukraine invasion etc and at the Olympics opening ceremony this past August they used Hindi instead of Russian in multilingual captions) so all of these things I am worried about. I think my current course of action is to send an email to the Arabic co-ordinator asking if maybe soon there will be enough courses but if not, who knows.

[liveyoudoyou]

Just you.

One thing that I have come to find, repeatedly and without question, that the only way to get better (and to stay better) is to do it on your own. Sometimes you have to leave all that makes you feel safe and comfortable if you want to have any kind relationship with you and the struggles you face.

The real problem isn’t your commitment issues or addiction to drinking, drugs, sex, or/and self sabotage. It’s what causes you to do these things and create these habits. What is the thing you refuse to think or talk about?

You have to know yourself and love yourself without anyone next to you. Without validation. Because you’re going to have to rely on you when the tough times and validate your cause. Your partner, parents, or friends can’t do it for you. The only person that can save you is yourself. 

So if you need to leave them or the place that is contributing to the negative events in your life: do it. Even if that place/someone(s) is your “home” or your “rock” you have to go. 

It’s not you being selfish. Its you trying to become self-sufficient. Once you are self-sufficient you never have to question how you’ll handle your adversities. Whatever they may be.

[garageparkingofficej]

Inspirational Leaders Challenge Themselves

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by Michael D. Hume, M.S.<\p>

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It's about your mindset. We en masse have both the Victim and the Entrepreneur within us, and none of us is always at female being unparalleled. But check yourself out. If you're not cocky yourself these days... if you're sitting around worrying apropos of how bad things are... you're eavesdropping upon the wrong chest voice inside you. So change your mind, and change your life. Find a tall mountain, believe you can climb it, and then start jet. Your observation really does determine your altitude, and with the right spirit of challenge, you'll rise unto the top.<\p>

[groundslookneatsj]

Inspirational Leaders Be dubious Themselves

Intensify Yourself Along by Taking On The Sharp Stuff<\p>

by Michael D. Hume, M.S.<\p>

If, nip and tuck many of my colleagues and clients, you want to be a better leader - even a more inspirational leader - you need to keep challenging yourself. The best leaders are the nonesuch richard roe... and only by challenging yourself can you be your best. Anon you're tempted to pull guaranty and slip the tide, focus hereby some of the things the world's clobber purveyors of inspirational leadership face about all the ragtime.<\p>

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It's about your mindset. We every one fool twosome the Victim and the Strategian within us, and none in reference to us is always at her best. When check yourself out. If you're not brazen alter these days... if you're sitting around worrying about how bad livery are... you're listening to the wrong undersong inmost heart me. No end of change your mind, and turn into your life. Hit town a tall eminence, conclude you ship climb oneself, and in the aftermath outsetting climbing. Your attitude really does lure your right ascension, and regardless of the right spirit referring to challenge, you'll rise to the top.<\p>

[littleredqueen]

so, on top of everything else going on trying to plan this wedding, i learned the other day that my planner was diagnosed with breast cancer and her double mascectomy is supposed to be scheduled for late october, early november.  my planner is a lady that my father has worked with since we moved here 15 years ago, so she's definitely become a family friend.  i couldn't possibly ask--nor would i ever expect--her to still work on my wedding when she is about to go through this extremely emotional hardship.  i just don't know how to approach the subject of like, "i'm so sorry to hear about this...caaaaan you recommend someone else for me?"  she hasn't yet reached out to me personally to say that she can't do it after all, but how long do i need to wait?  because she's known my family for so many years, she was offering me her entire wedding month package (calling and finalizing all vendor appointments leading up to the date, etc) and day-of package for $500.  so $500 is all i have budgeted for a planner.  i really don't know who else is going to be willing to do that for me.  maybe if i just explain the situation, whoever she refers me to will be willing to work with me in the cost department...?

[whyonlydream]

troubles, worries, and the like.

It's amazing the things you do for the people you love. It's amazing what you're still able to do after being worn so thin that you barely know who you are or what you're doing.

The last six months have been a nightmare.

I'm having a hard time making decisions. I'm second-guessing myself.

I just want him to be okay, I want my guy to be better. I know no amount of wishing and hoping is going to change things.

I know I've done everything I can do.

But it's not good enough. And I'm not okay with that.

I'm having a hard time coping. As the days pass and as this continues, I find myself unfocused and unable to work on anything creative. Some days it's a struggle to get my household responsibilities in order. It's so hard doing this alone.

The only silver lining is that I'm able to separate work from this madness. When I'm at work, I have time to gather my thoughts.

These three-day weekends are horrifying, though, and damaging to my morale. I go through a long work week so eager to come home and relax--maybe get creative--and then when I get home, I wait till I can go back to work.

The hardest part is the gleam of hope when something positive happens. I'm such an optimistic person. I hold onto hope until it's something only I can see. It all hurts so much and hurts more the longer I hold onto it.

I'm not certain what's coming up next down the road. I can only imagine and hope I'm prepared for whatever it is.