I said this in a friend's post and I'll say it here:
If the game doesn't have a clearly stated and followed tolerance policy, I won't join anymore. And I make that position very clear. I don’t expect a game to be perfect, but each of us must decide what we won’t accept anymore and stand on that. Our presence will serve as the metric by which a game may be judged.
To the LARPs of the world, this is not a warning or a request. You want to survive? Fix the broken stairs. Fix the fucked staircases we navigate so carefully and gently so that no one has to confront it. Remove the damned lampshades and throw back the thrice stuffed carpets we've swept whole (sometimes literal) bodies under. Fix them or die out. We are not second class citizens.
If a game won't make itself better, they do no deserve us. There are resources available. People who actively want to educate. Do not allow these people to sea lion us, do not cast pearls before fuckers. Our lives are not and will not be theirs and they can educate themselves, or they do not care. And if they don’t care, then that says enough to me.
We should warn the Queer community to stay the fuck away from games Like That. We should warn PoC to stay away from them. We should warn women to stay away from them. And when any of us find a game with mostly white cis dudes we will know by our absence to give it a wide berth.
If they want to carry tiki torches?