#trans solidarity

[eviltransgendertips]

Evil transgender tip #9 read up on intersex people. A lot of trans and intersex struggles overlap and solidarity is important.

[transandrophobia-is-real]

Credit to Sabre (@/bottleneck_loser) on tiktok.

The points that she's making are super important and very true in the current disk horse around masculine identity, specifically but not limited to, trans men, in the queer community.

I think she sums up it all up very well, this is a really good watch.

[mx-seraph]

The world will always need more happy women who love being women in it than it will miserable men who hate being men.

It will always need more happy men who love being men in it than it will miserable women who hate being women.

It will always need more happy nonbinary people who love life outside the binary in it than it will ever need miserable men and women who hate being binary.

Do not live half a life for the comfort of transphobes and exorsexists. Don't die wondering, and don't let them bury you a stranger. Even if you're wrong, you'll still know your own heart better after exploring more of its corners.

[rinnosetti]

As a trans woman, why the fuck is one of my sisters for coming at me for showing appreciation for the trans men and trans mascs in my life who have helped me discover who I am.

I didn't have a lot of trans women in my life growing up, but I did have trans men/mascs. The first trans person I ever met was a trans man, he's my cousin. Trans men/mascs showed me that I don't have to live with the life that was assigned to me. My highschool sweetheart ended up being a trans man and so did my first husband. Dating a trans man is what first got me to question my gender (Thank you @gnomeskillet for dealing with my dumbass, I miss your face) and it was a trans masc nonbinary person who finally cracked my egg. For as long as I remember, it was trans men who were there for me and helped me discover who I really am. Not that trans women didn't help, they just weren't as much as a presence and the men were until recently.

So when I share my experiences and appreciation and another trans woman, a friend no less, responds with "Is this satire?" and tells me I'm throwing trans women under the bus and I "need to talk to more trans women" it pissed me off. We are literally fighting the same fight, why does it matter that men are who taught me what it means to be trans? And I know this isn't an isolated incident, I see so many trans men/masc talking about how they are treated like they somehow betrayed the community by finding their true selves or how a lot of the anti-men discourse hurts them as much as it does cis men (that's a whole other rant about how "All men are evil" is bioessentialism and that's terf talk) and all I can think is why? Those are our brothers and siblings. They deserve all the same care and compassion as we get, so why the fuck are we attacking them?

To my trans sisters who are participating in this hateful discourse, do better.

To all the trans men/mascs reading this, I love you and you are amazing. Thank you for helping me be who I am today.

[this-is-multigenderphobia]

If your trans activism stops at binary trans people, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at trans women, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at trans men, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at gender conforming people, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at perisex people, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at monogender people, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at people who label themselves at all, or at people who label themselves in the way that makes sense, and is not "contradictory", to you, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at white people, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at abled and neurotypical people, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at thin people, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at singlets, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at people you find sexually attractive/are available to you, you're not a trans ally.

If your trans activism stops at people who express their gender based on your expectations/norms, who behave, present, talk or act the way you expect them to based on their gender, you're not a trans ally.

And gentle reminder that you need to put in active effort to be a trans ally even if you are trans yourself. There are a lot of people, similar and different to you, going through different and similar things, and you need to act as an ally to anyone that is not you.

Edited to add the last couple points!

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Adding a disclaimer since this post isnt worded in the clearest way. The way it's meant to be interpreted is: "If your trans activism stops at x, you're not a trans ally." Meaning that if your trans activism only goes as far as a certain identity (perisex, binary, white) and doesn't include identities outside of it (intersex, non binary, poc) then you cant consider yourself a trans ally because your allyship comes with the requirement of others being a certain identity and thus excludes part of the community.

And yes. Your trans activism shouldnt stop, period. However everyone disagrees on which identities are covered in that, that's why I made this post pointing out different identities perceived as "normal" vs the ones beyond them, which end up excluded or not considered, like the perspective of multigender people or plural people and systems.

[this-is-trans-joy]

I think the best part of this blog is the fact that online spaces have been trying to act like the trans community is divided and that transmascs and transfems are inherently opposed to each other, meanwhile every other ask in my inbox or addition on my posts completely debunks this.

Transmascs are loving and supporting their transfem partners or friends or family and vice versa, they’re swapping clothes with each other or helping each other with their HRT injections or buying each other plushies and cute little trinkets, they’re playing video games with each other, asking each other out, dating and marrying each other, they’re saying such beautiful words about each other hoping that the other will read them and smile, they’re protecting each other from transphobes or helping them to escape their families or offering them a place to stay and a couch to crash on, they’re sharing music recs and teaching each other new skills and creating new things together. They’re meeting and talking and laughing and sharing and building new lives together.

Never let anyone tell you that the community is divided. There is so much solidarity out there, happening every second, and it will continue happening until the end of time.

Transmascs and transfems loving each other forever and always, okay?

[0ffbeatqueer]

This is my new favourite headline I've seen all year lmaooo

[professional-lamprey]

to every single trans woman who is standing with trans men and intersex people and enbys during this wave of radical feminism, coming from a trans guy every time I see a post of a trans woman vocally calling TERF and TRFs out on their shit makes me smile