#trans talk

[charl0ttan]

god cis people really dont even know about transgender euphoria. like they can only fathom transitioning as something you do to save your life. its so so bleak

[recoveringwfeminism]

Hello, jumping to your asks since you seem open to debate.

My positions are fairly leftist, economically and socially.

I saw one of your posts being kinda anti-trans, but it doesn't make any hard claims and just says that trans people claiming to be happy are probably sad and coping.

What are you actual thoughts on trans people?

To be totally fair, that post, if it's the one I'm thinking of, was me anting about one specific person who orbits radblr to piss us off. It was meant to be a vent about one person.

I have... complex beliefs. I think most trans people are acting in good faith, and genuinely trying to alleviate dysphoria. At the same time, there's like... a weird amount of bad actors in the community. Like, a LOT. I think they let bad actors and misinformation about safety fly way too easily, and a weird amount of trans people are very, VERY misogynistic. And I dislike how flippant the community is about transitioning, especially physically.

HRT and puberty blockers are not harmless. Binding can completely ruin your lungs and back and ribs. A fair amount of the trans community insists GNC people are just eggs waiting to crack. The trans community is DIABOLICAL about violence to women who disagree with them (see; terfbreaking tag for examples), while there's no equivalent for the men who disagree. There's a push to transition instead of even trying to see if psychotherapy could help. There needs to be stricter standards for transition than just self-ID.

I don't say this just as an outsider. I identified as transgender for so long, for years. I was even on hormones for a while. I was on a top surgery list. I have quite a few trans people in my life who I love and adore (my little sibling and my mom's spouse, neither of who I believe are bad actors.). I have very personal experience with the community. I just don't love how a lot of the community acts, and I think that some attempts at acceptance before transition would help a lot.

I don't think all, or even most trans people are bad actors. I don't have anything against social transition. (Hell, my own name is from when I tried to transition.) I'm all for informed consent. I just think there needs a Lot of reform in the community.

[thecapisin]

Absolute superman is a trans man: the post

ok at first it was just me projecting and like oo fun headcanon haha ha but I really . Mmmmmm I don’t know how to prove it but he is. He just is. Unhinged rambling below

Also talk of binding, packing, torture, potential spoilers for absolute superman, the closeted trans experience, and kal’s shitty fashion sense below

I’m procrastinating a paper to write this instead ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ

So my idea from the beginning pretty much is Sol/his suit (RIP) helps him bind and pack. His presentation fluctuates based on how much of a creature he’s feeling, whether he’s feeling he/it (binding without packing) for more creatureness or he/him (binding and packing). I think Lois will get confused sometimes because obviously she’s looking. Freaky Lane. And the bulge is there sometimes. And other times its not . And she’s like >.< I swear he had a…. No I must be going crazy. And I can’t ask him, that’d be weird. I’ll just… take notes. And keep looking. FREAK. I doubt Jimmy cares about that he’s just like.. probably some alien shit. Not my business. W Jimmy

When he’s captured by Ra’s al Ghul, Brainiac is surprised that Kal isn’t AMAB and gets worried he’ll be fed to the father box, so he gives Kal top surgery. Now you can’t see the scars because he healed them but he gave him top surgery trust I was there 🙂‍↕️

I think out of all the things that came out of his 2 week stay in torture city I think this was the Least Bad. I mean. It’s still bad. Its all bad. He didn’t ask for it, he had no idea he could even get top surgery, and unless someone else has kryptonite surgical tools, Brainiac is the only one who can do it…

But he doesn’t have to argue with Sol about how long he can bind anymore. And everything feels so much lighter, he doesn’t have to hunch so much to hide his chest when he’s not binding, he doesn’t have to feel like he’s hiding something so important to him anymore,

Suns out guns out

I mean look . Look at him. He’s experimenting. Hes finally showing off his big beautiful supermoobs. He’ll get it eventually. Oh Kal…. Moving on

Speaking from my own experience, when I was younger as a egg and then a closeted trans man I would often cover my face with my hair/hoodies, wear baggy clothing, hunch over, and talk quietly to hide myself from the Evil Perceiving World because I didn’t feel comfortable in the body I was living in. I see Kal doing that when out being a civilian and I can’t help but think yk. Yk. Yk. The themes are theming. This is the trans experience. Him being an alien and hiding himself… him being trans and hiding himself… him being Different and hiding himself…. It is the SAME THING.

Like he’s been doing this since he was a child, because I bet Krypton was a super bad place to be trans. I mean (in the simulation) being an orphan is a crime, I assume it was in reality too. I can’t imagine a society like that (as well as… everything else about it) would be receptive to trans people. And I think his parents would have been super accepting if they knew he was trans, but I think he was too scared to tell them. Very long story short, my parents were accepting when I came out to them but after hearing and seeing the horror stories of my friends with more conservative parents, I was scared to tell them too. Ofc he already has self worth issues outside of being trans… but this is at least part of it

I like to think his expression of gender is inherently different from other ppls. When he’s Superman he can be exactly that, but when he’s The Superman, an out of control alien creature THING that threatens the status quo, that also extends to how he presents himself. Oka okay. Now. Superman. Superman isn’t a name he chose for himself and I get that it has the word Man in it but its still a label/title forced on him. And I think this is also an experience a lot of us have as trans people, being labeled by others who don’t Get It and having to bear the expectations (expectations said “others” expect, not our own) of said label. There’s something I could say about neurodivergence playing a role in how he perceives gender (he’s definitely autistic) but that’s another can of worms.

So I like to imagine Kal plays with his body proportions using his suit and fuck with people, he experiments with different clothing styles, he’s like oh, you want to put me in a box? Fuck you I’ll be who I want to be. And he eventually embraces the superman label because it’s become something he’s created for himself, realizing that he can do with the label what he wants to and not let anyone tell him how he can live. And if they do, well… he’s above that and he’ll keep doing what he wants.

(Also, the term genderfuck? Yeah. Putting this here :3)

Jimmy Wokesen. What’s your preferred name? What’s your PREFERRED NAME????? It’s right here… its right here guys I’m not crazy am I…

Omg and he’s coming out omg omg guysssss 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹

Yeah. If I think of anything else I’ll make a second post, but Kal-El absolute superman has always been a trans man to me since I started reading and finally I organized my thoughts on this enough to make it a post and I think the first 15 issues of absolute superman are a big metaphor for transgender and self discovery thank you for reading 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

[mr-owen-burnett]

sometimes I get gender dysphoria about being a 5'2" trans man (that's already below average for a woman) but then I'll remind myself that yeah, there are cis men that short too. it makes it slightly better ig. still sucks tho 😔

[watercolourferns]

He gives me gender envy 🥺

[whumperofworlds]

IDK if there's such a thing as "transcurious" (kinda like bicurious) but.

I'm feeling that RN TBH.

When I was a kid I questioned if I was a boy a lot, especially with the way I act more boyish. Nowadays, the question comes up occasionally but not as prevalent.

IDK. Gender thoughts.

[transsexual-rage]

So I spend a lot of my time wishing that I was cis, and I find it pretty hard to find pride in my transness.

I only really feel that community at monthly meetings I go to, and even then I don't always fit right in.

And I've been thinking a lot about this and I think I've figured out why (aisde from the obvious benefits of being cis, like not having to transition which can cause social issues and be medically challenging).

When I came out, there wasn't a single, and I mean not even one person who reacted positively to me coming out.

The degrees of disgust and disappointment varied greatly, and my most "positive" reactions were from friends who just went along with it and didn't change much, some called me by my name and others didn't.

I think that if even one person had reacted well and said that they were happy I knew who I was or proud of me for figuring this out or brave for fighting to be referred to the right way then I would have some degree of pride about who I am.

And I know that playing 'What if?" doesn't change anything but if you're reading this and somebody comes out to you as trans then please react positively. Realising I was trans helped with a lot of my mental health issues (not all of them were instantly solved but I learnt a lot) and also just made my life better in ways cis people can't imagine!

Please tell the trans people in their lives that you are happy for them, that it's wonderful that they know who they are now and that you're happy they realised this! I promise it will make a difference.