Something I haven’t seen talked about at all, is Cis women’s need to control trans men’s bodies. Especially mothers of trans men.
Like. Before my mom had her character development, I would legit get into screaming matches with her and my step dad about cutting my hair. I wanted it short, they didn’t. So, I would self sabatoge and purposefully fuck up my own hair so they would be forced to take me to a hair stylist to chop it off.
I also see an uptick of liberal cis women also always expecting trans men to be these like. Meat shields. They don’t give us a place in topics of reproductive rights even though many of us have uteruses and can get pregnant, but we’re supposed to be the ones to fix cis men.
Many feminist now also forgot that a key tennant of feminism, is you hold EVERYONE to the same moral standard. It’s about gender EQUALITY, not female supremacy. Equality cannot exist in a society that caters to explicitly one gender.
Many people I know (including myself) have been harrassed or assaulted by Cis women. Especially mothers and female friends and partners.
Abigail Shreir bullshit aside, cis women genuinely act like it’s a slight against them to want top surgery or to want to be a man. Part of it is because they view men and masculinity as this inherit threat, an enemy. It’s the same reason they hate trans women, to cis women, trans women are these evil things coming in to hurt them.
Cis women (especially white cis women) tend to think they are the ultimate end-all-be-all oppressed victims, if you are a man you can’t be oppressed. Which obviously is bullshit.
Trans men, Trans women, and enbies are all under the same umbrella, the only way a trans man could have systemic power over a trans women would be if he’s white and she isn’t. Or vice versa. Liberal Cis woman ‘allies’ are also getting farrrr too comfortable here. Like. They expect labor from trans men and punch down on us because they claim we are ‘the oppressor class’ when no, Stephanie, you are just transphobic and using your privilege against me. They act buddy-buddy with trans women, but the moment trans women speak up and are like ‘hey. This is kinda fucked.’ They show their whole ass and viciously turn on them.
Cis women and Cis men are both allies when it comes to transgender oppression and niether of them should be immediately trusted. It’s not our job to fix our cis male counterparts, that’s THEIR (as in cis Male’s) responsibility. Trans men can be an example of healthy masculinity, sure, but you shouldn’t expect us to fix your shitty boyfriends.
Honestly.
Note: This is a safe space for Enbies, Intersex folks, and Trans women/Trans fems to add to this and talk about their own shit. I’m not gonna do trans infighting bullshit we’re all in this together.
