#trashcanfem

[low-budget-mulan]

The way to a man’s heart:

Hair ribbons.

[oh-my-chevalier-blog]

Everyone has been roasting TCF lately, for good reason, so I’d like to add my own two cents (though I hope I can too this without sounding too angry or hateful).

The main thing that rubs me the wrong way about blogs like hers is the emphasis on being traditionally feminine ALL THE TIME. I believe the Church’s teaching that there are two genders, so my personal leaning towards the androgynous does not change the fact that God created me a female. Occasionally it’s a struggle to identify as a girl, but I know that I am one and refuse to believe a modern lie.

And then I come across blogs like TradCatFem, which shame girls that aren’t feminine and perpetuate the idea that girls that don’t like ruffles or pink are somehow falling short of womanhood. This is really discouraging to me, because I’m doing my best fulfill my role in this world as a female, even though sometimes I don’t feel like I am one--and basically these blogs are telling me that I’m not doing enough.

Sometimes I wear men’s clothes. I hate heels, makeup, or anything that’s trying to make me look “pretty”. I’m a terrible cook, I have no interest in sewing, and I’m not sure if I ever want to start a family. But none of this changes the fact that I am God’s daughter. Stop supporting blogs that tell people like me otherwise.

[low-budget-mulan]

Me: I use hair ties because it keeps my hair out of my face and it’s required for work.

TradCatFem, an intellectual: YOU CAN ONLY USE HAIR RIBBONS AND IF YOU USE SCRUNCHIES YOU ARENT A WOMAN™️