Reframing my thoughts to #WIN
Like many Millennials*, I’m pretty awesome at beating myself up. “You don’t know how to cook? FAILURE.” “You haven’t read any Betty Friedan? You are a #literarymidget.” “You didn’t notice her shoes? EVERYBODY noticed her shoes.”
But today I came to a realization—I don't have to beat myself up. In fact, I can find a way to make myself a winner in every possible perceived failure or awkward interaction. Call me a child of the trophy generation**, but it’s true! I can always be a winner!
Take a recent talk I had with a quasi-professional acquaintance. He babbled on and on about an upcoming vacation. I smiled and nodded and asked a few token questions. Sure, I didn’t react with near the amount of enthusiasm I should have, and he definitely noticed this. "Most people get really enthusiastic when I tell them about ___!" Yeah fine so I might have dropped the networking ball BUT—and this is huge—I also didn’t let my mouth run. I was at high risk of saying, “I have no interest in returning there—such a cultural wasteland.” See, if I’d followed my natural inclination, I would have come across as a snob. But instead, I didn’t. And I won the conversation!
So my goal for my 30s is to turn every possible self-hating move into a win. “I didn’t notice her shoes? At least I didn’t tell her she looked fat!” “I haven’t read Betty Friedan? At least I can read” “I don’t know how to cook? I bet Betty Friedan didn’t, either.” WIN.
*What an uninteresting generation. I vote we reframe ourselves "The Starbucks Generation." Too many options
**Ooh, screw Starbucks. Let's capture "Trophy Generation"