So... I’ve identified as non-binary for a couple years now. I’m a gender studies and psych major, therefore i’m almost too aware of my afab conditoning. however now i believe i may be agender. female nor male expression appeals to me. my only concern that i would love to hear opinions on is this - i understand that many agender folk identify as such because they can remove themselves from the gendered rhetoric - but how can i, someone who battles female socialization constantly, truly b agender?
I would say that not every agender person is able to/chooses to remove themself entirely from the idea of a gender binary. I think most people are aware of some form of gender binary, whether they place themself on it is a different story.
(Image ID: In grey across the top reads “The Gender Spectrum” underneath is a circle with a gradient of pink on the left side, purple on top, blue on the right side, and white on the bottom. Above the circle reads “NONBINARY, to the right reads “MASCULINE” to the left reads “FEMININE” and underneath reads “AGENDER”. In the bottom right corner says “tyef” and underneath “transyouthequality.org”. End ID)
So if you still consider yourself a part of the gender binary, that’s okay. It doesn’t make you any less agender. Trying to distance yourself from this is difficult, especially when you’re learning more about it in school.
The last part of your ask seems complicated. (”how can i, someone who battles female socialization constantly, truly b agender?”) Do you identify as agender? If you answered yes, you’re truly agender! If you answered maybe or partially, that doesn’t mean you aren’t. You could be truly agender sometimes or truly agender along with something else.
Basically, there isn’t one way to be truly agender. All you have to do is be you.
Here are some blogs on Tumblr that might lead you to more resources
@a-gender (agender positivity/resources)
@agenderchat (connecting with community)
@agenderhelp (genderqueer-focused)
@agenderootd (agender clothing/selfie)
@hellyeahagender (agender ask-based)