Controlling Rage
Humans are passionate creatures; it is one of the things that separates us from beasts. There is a fire that grows to the point of volcanic eruptions while gaming. When you have put your effort and time into a game only to be cut short by mistakes it is hard to control your temper.
The first thing about controlling your rage is recognizing it is there. If you deny it and say you are just a little upset then scream at the game, you most definitely are having issues recognizing your rage.
The ways you can recognize rage:
1. Your breathing has changed. Either quicker or slow and deliberate, you have become conscious of your breathing pattern.
2. Your jaw or shoulders are tense. The jaw being tense can be felt in your temple, while your shoulders can pinch at the side of your neck. You may not be a violent type, but this physical tension can be toxic to your own health.
3. The game has drained you of joy. You are doing a “hail Mary” attempt to reconcile a score, a point, a match. Point is you aren’t having fun and more likely to be upset.
4. You are screaming. Whether you are in a call with the people in game or not, if you are screaming you are raging.
5. You feel the need to type to justify your actions. You don’t need to explain anything. It is a game. You aren’t their teacher. If you mess up, then learn from it. If someone else messed up, then you typing messages at them won’t fix it. Regardless of the information you present, it will not change anything.
Now that you can recognize it, you need to control it. First and foremost you need to understand video games are for leisure. The esports scene is competitive and pays. You may be a streamer making income off of your content, but if you lose your cool then you can lose sponsors. If you take the game seriously that is great! Everyone loves a great teammate who will do anything to win a game. Your motivation can dictate how your rage comes up.
In example: You love playing ranked games of Hearthstone. You are on a 6 win streak but get cut short. You proceed to lose the next 8 games. You are upset by this. The beauty of the system is you can’t type to people, just spam emotes and those can be squelched. Consider getting something to review your games to watch where you could improve. Sometimes you get a bad draw, other times there are ways to play something better. It is your ability to remain objective to get better that can help with this kind of rage. Always take a loss as an opportunity to grow as a player.
Another example: you are in a dungeon run for Guild Wars 2 with an inexperienced player and a single friend. You need the group to get through the dungeon but none of your other friends are available. The new players will die repeatedly and may not be privy to your experience. Get off your high horse to explain before the dungeon run in chat. Let them know how the run is supposed to go and set them up for success. If you are mean to an inexperienced player, just remember you used to be that player to someone else. Be a mentor that the community wants.
Final example: You are in a ranked game of League of Legends. You are in your final game of your series. If you win, then you are promoted. You are with a group that made some questionable bans and picks. You chose not to speak in a polite manner to get a great team comp and you also didn’t dodge the game. Now you are 17 minutes into the game. Mid has died 3 times and lost their tower. The jungle is far behind and unable to help anyone. You won your lane by not feeding the enemy team, but you haven’t roamed and aren’t fed. Your mid wants to surrender and you are livid that nobody wants to try to win. This is a very real scenario. Sometimes you just need to understand that there are things out of your control and play the game “law of averages”. Play more games. You will lose, but you will also win. Not every game is critical. You aren’t going to die from losing. Complaining will only ruin your mood for the next game. Breathe. Make sure you have eaten and drank. Take a break from the game if you haven’t. You can be just as much of the problem as your “feeding noob team”. Think of different ways to win or rotations. Don’t get hung up on mistakes. You are human and will make a lot of them in your lifetime.
The pattern you should see is to remove your emotions from the situation. Your desire to win is ruining your ability to have a quality life. The more you can use your real-world skills in a video game the more well-rounded you become. Even if you think you aren’t the problem, remain open to criticism.











