People bitch on Tumblr, so I’ll join the club, and I’ll bitch about friendship. Friendship shouldn’t be a one-sided job, and yet so often it is.
I’m so sure I’m not the only one who feels like sometimes just maintaining a friendship is all on me (I message them, I make plans with them, etc). And you know what? That’s bullshit. Fuck any feelings you have about being alone - to be blunt if your friends are like what I just described, you are alone, because they don’t care.
I’m not a sad teenager (anymore) so I’ve come to terms with this, but it can be quite crushing when you realize so many of your relationships are 90% on you to maintain. So what to do? Drop them. Let them fade away. All it requires is you not putting forward that effort.
People who want to be your friend, who genuinely care, won’t disappear because they make the effort. Even the quietest of people still try! It’s taken me years and I’ve probably lost like 5-10 close “friends,” but with them gone i really don’t feel lonely or alone.
This post has like no point, but if it does, it’s this. Don’t exhaust yourself trying to keep people in your life when they barely do anything to keep you in theirs. Keep the people who matter and care, find new ones who will, but don’t waste your time on the dicks who can’t be fucked to do anything.
Edit: no this is not directed at anyone in particular