I like the concept of unlabels. I think it creates a space or place of freedom to say "my gender is pretty" without me coining or using a specific neologism (neolabel) for that (eg. prettygender).
It can be useful for people who use simple words to explain their experiences. Anyways using specific labels always gave me issues due to the need to explain the complexity of every label always with that sentiment "not every person with this label experiences this the way I do", and needing extra explanation to how that works for other people.
Idk if it's just me bc i come from a place that a lot of people around me don't even barely understand the concept of bisexuality, imagine bigender. Well, I explain and I'm a very talking person, but sometimes when I talk it seems I'm coming from an exoplanet and these things don't exist on the planet of the person I'm talking to too.
Maybe I overthink a lot and I fear apprehensively getting embarrassed for things I can't control (what other people think).
And that's maybe what language is for, for (re)cognizably understandable communication, comprehensive sharing, interactability/interagility (intelligibility), and a sense of mutual belonging (in case of group identities).
Also maybe I'm easier/susceptible to confuse or forget exactly what some words mean, and I have a bunch of identities that I loose the defs. I need exomemory. But then I will go back to list entries and don't fit that label anymore (if I ever fitted).
Yes, unlabels are really great for filling a space we don't otherwise have the language for!
I understand the feeling of having to explain your gender but it feels almost like speaking another language, like the other person couldn't ever understand where you're coming from. I'm definitely an over-explainer. After discovering so many new things about myself, I started writing essays because I felt like that was the best way I could explain all the little details. Someone asks me what maverine or neutrois means? I've got an essay for both of those things!
It helps that I also keep it broad where needed. Nonbinary man. That makes it a little easier for me if I'm not in a space where I really want to or am able to explain so much.
Having multiple labels definitely also helps. I only have two genders (I think) but I end up using a dozen labels just to convey all the things that make up those two genders. Unlabels might also help but mine would be more like... "a guy, but also more" or "a guy (sort of.)"
I'd love to talk more about the usefulness of unlabels! I might type up an essay draft tonight. - 💙💚
